Parenting is … repairing our broken past as it shows up.

Posted on January 19, 2020

Parenting is … repairing our broken past as it shows up. Every year, when my husband and son leave for their two-week-long hiking trip to the foot of the Himalayas, my girlfriend and I set aside a night for a sleepover at my home. The highlight of our time together earlier this week was watching the first professional cuts of my daughter’s wedding videos. As we spotted common friends among the images, we got into a deep dive about the…

Parenting is … accepting that only half of what you plan will actually happen.

Posted on January 12, 2020

It’s 12 days into the year, and I’m buried in planning and preparing for the launch of my upcoming Mindful Teacher Training online course. Back in early September, when I started recording the video portion, the launch date was set for November 15, right before Thanksgiving. We ran into a few glitches, so we moved the goal to December 15. When my mom’s knee surgery was unexpectedly scheduled for December 12, I went to take care of her knowing that…

Parenting is… the art of learning about life from your children.

Posted on January 8, 2020

I was chatting with my daughter the other day about letting go, and she talked about some advice that she was giving a friend on the same subject. As we went on to share personal experiences about letting go, I asked, “But do we really wipe those instances from our memory, Nitasha?” Some words of wisdom rolled off her tongue so naturally that I found myself listening closely to her. “The inner world is so simple and yet so complicated,…

Parenting is… planting the seeds of love with commitment. 

Posted on December 22, 2019

As I looked around at the holiday decorations in the lobby of Hoag Memorial Hospital in Irvine, I couldn’t help but be in awe of the power of family. My father, siblings, their spouses, and my husband had all showed up to be at my mom’s side as she underwent knee replacement surgery. Clearly we were not alone. In groups small and large several families were huddled around the waiting room apparently for the same reason. I thought about how…

Parenting is… a reflection of our wholeness or hollowness.

Posted on December 15, 2019

When we are whole within, we understand and respect our own existence as separate from our children’s. When we are whole ourselves, we do not project on our kids—or anyone else in our relationship—any exertion of authority, any loss of power, or any doubt or shame. When we accept and respect ourselves, we have clarity about life and our role as a parent. We can live out our parenting intention of unconditionally supporting and raising our kids. We can set…