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Are you having a conflict with your teen? Maybe THEY think you are nagging them when YOU think you are just reminding them. Maybe it's just the presentation. Grown and Flown spells out what the difference is. ... See MoreSee Less

Nagging or Reminding: A Psychologist Explains the Difference

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What’s the difference between reminding and nagging? How do we remind our kids to do something without coming across as a shrew?

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Such a great reminder. When you get angry and heated up, take a minute to think before you speak. It can make all the difference. ... See MoreSee Less

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Emotions have been running high and it might not seem there is a lot to be grateful for as many of us are still stuck at home. Jobs are on the line, kids are frustrated and bored. But being grateful and expressing that gratitude does wonders not just for your own health and well-being, but for that of your friends and loved-ones. Read what Dr. Jay Kumar has to say about it.Feeling overwhelmed by even the smallest things lately?

The COVID pandemic is affecting our daily lives in many unexpected ways.

Your brain is so focused on survival mode (health, work, family, finances, and the future) that trying to focus your energy on anything else feels harder than usual.

There are many ways to find calm in your day.

Because we’re all in this together, practicing gratitude is one powerful strategy that proves “calm” really is the cure. Dr. Jay Kumar Jay Kumar

#calmisthecure #selfcare #gratitude #mentalhealthawareness #scienceofahappybrain
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What an amazing list of movies to watch with your kids. Have you seen these? Thanks, A Fine Parent for the suggestions. ... See MoreSee Less

25 Of The Best Family Movies For Teaching Honesty, Grit, Courage & More - A Fine Parent

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Want to kill two birds with one stone? Here are 25 of the best family movies ever. AND they are great tools for teaching honesty, grit, courage & more without dramatic eye rolls 🙂

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Family is more than a group of related individuals. It is our constant endeavor to love and support one another through each day-to-day moment. Check out the latest #mystory video on the Tools of Growth blog. ... See MoreSee Less

#MyStory - Family | Tools of Growth

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How, as a family, are we building stronger relationships and bonds with our family during our time together? How do we come together during both expected and unexpected moments in our lives? One of the most difficult parts of building a long-lasting relationship isn’t finding our partners, but how...

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Have you noticed the time going faster and faster? Let's all take a breath and appreciate that our kids will never be as young and innocent as they are at this very moment. Thank you Creative Healthy Family for the reminder. ... See MoreSee Less

Treasure Your Kids When They're Little, They Grow Up Fast

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Treasure your kids when they’re little, because they don’t stay that way for long. You'll never regret spending too much time with them.

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Another week down! Do something fun with your kids this weekend. Build a blanket fort, play a new board game, bake cookies, be silly. Happy Friday and have an amazing weekend. ... See MoreSee Less

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It's always a good idea to get a refresher on what mindfulness parenting really is. This is a great one from Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham at Psychology Today. ... See MoreSee Less

Mindfulness Parenting

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How to take back the power and stop letting your child press your buttons.

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We're slowly making it to the end of this very unusual school year. So the next question is... what are the kids going to DO all summer? Some states are opening up slowly while others are facing a summer of stay-at-home requirements. Maybe a virtual summer camp will help keep the kids structured and occupied. ... See MoreSee Less

9 Virtual Summer Camps That Will Keep Your Little Ones Engaged

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These virtual summer camps for children of all ages will keep them engaged and occupied amid the COVID-19 outbreak.

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They're coming! Our mindfulness programs for teachers are coming online. Stay tuned for the big launch. Learn more about these incredible programs here: toolsofgrowth.com/school-programs/ ... See MoreSee Less

School Programs | Tools of Growth

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Online Mindfulness Workshops Coming Soon School Programs Mindful Leaders’ Lead to Succeed Program for Teachers, Administrators, Recess Staff, Before/After School Staff, Bus Drivers, and Paraeducators Bringing science-supported tools of mindful communication, emotional intelligence, and social-emot...

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We've already been at home for a long time now and it's probably time to find some new activities to do at home with the kids. Good thing that A Fine Parent has an amazing list of 50 Activities To Try During The Coronavirus Lockdown (And Beyond!). ... See MoreSee Less

Missing Your Old Activity Schedule? Here's a Positive Way to Look at It - A Fine Parent

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Activity schedule disrupted by the Coronavirus lockdown? Reevaluate what really matters and spend time together as a family with one of these 50 activities.

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My message to mom's today... you are the "perfect" mom for your kids. No matter how young or old they are, they will always look to you for inspiration, advice, and most of all... love. From my family to yours... Happy Mother's Day! ... See MoreSee Less

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While we aren't going to be able to spend time in person with our mothers tomorrow, how about some online messages, cards, and photos to celebrate the holiday. Thank you Indian Express for the amazing ideas. ... See MoreSee Less

Happy Mother’s Day 2020: Wishes, images, quotes, status, messages, cards, wallpapers and photos

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Happy Mother's Day 2020 Wishes, images, quotes, status, messages, cards: Although this year the celebrations will be different with the lockdown in place, you can always send these messages, quotes, pics and brighten up your mum's day!

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All of us could use a reminder that our kids are watching... and listening... and absorbing... everything we say and do, especially now that we are all home together on a regular basis. ... See MoreSee Less

Parenting is... being a good role model always–especially now during the #coronavirus crisis. | Tools of Growth

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Parenting is... being a good role model always–especially now during the #coronavirus crisis. Walk the walk before you talk the talk. Our kids will do as we do, not as we say. Children learn best by example. Monkey see monkey do. Why are we having a judgment lapse when we know these age-old phrase...

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From the archives: How have you grown since your first Mother's Day? While our kids are growing up year after year, so are we mothers. Growth never stops. Share with us what you've learned as a parent over the years... or share how you will be celebrating Mother's Day this year. ... See MoreSee Less

How Have You Grown Since Your First Mother's Day? | Tools of Growth

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“I can’t believe how big my kids are all of a sudden.” “I’m sad they’re not babies anymore.” “My son’s first word was spoken on Mother’s Day—and it was “papa.” I’ll never let him live that down!” “I remember the day that I became a mother like yesterday. My son was...

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What an amazing week for giving thanks. It's Teacher Appreciation Week AND today is National Nurses Day. We so appreciate all the women and men who are taking care of us on the front lines with risk to their own health. Thank the nurses you know today (and every day) for keeping us healthy and safe. #NationalNursesDay ... See MoreSee Less

NATIONAL NURSES DAY - May 6, 2020 | National Today

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Want to celebrate National Nurses Day in style? We got the best activities, ideas, discounts, and deals to make your day amazing!

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It's Teacher Appreciation Day (and week too)! Thank you for all the amazing work you do everyday! You are amazing!! ... See MoreSee Less

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What is #GivingTuesdayNow and how can you take part? Learn more about the organizations and events in your community and how you can give back in these times of Covid-19. www.givingtuesday.org/ ... See MoreSee Less

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Stuck inside the house probably means your TV is getting quite the workout. With online schooling going on, we hope you are encouraging your kids to get some fresh air and read a book, take a walk, learn to cook (or something along those lines) just to get a break from the screens. But when the TV goes on... what are your kids watching? We love Common Sense Media and their reviews... find out more about what your kids are watching. ... See MoreSee Less

Reviews for what your kids want to watch (before they watch it) | Common Sense Media

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Common Sense Media is the leading source of entertainment and technology recommendations for families. Parents trust our expert reviews and objective advice.

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.