.

Roma Quote

Available Now:

Mindful Relaxed Parenting

Simplify the ride, amplify the joy! Build lasting, lifelong relationships with your kids! Enhance parenting confidence!

Mindful Teacher Training

Build connection, trust, and mutual respect with your students. Minimize the number of incident reports in your classroom. Teach with confidence and emotional intelligence.

The Book

Get ready for a parenting makeover!

In the News

Awards, editorial reviews, and more

In Schools

Programs for teachers and campus leaders

Roma Talks

About The "Perfect" Parent
More Videos

The Blog

Read the latest blog posts

The Experts Say…

“Roma Khetarpal gives parents practical tools to better understand...”

“I used to get so worked up from situations with my kids… being a more relaxed parent makes my life, their life, and my husband’s life much easier and much more enjoyable.”Kavita Vanjani

“Once I understood the importance of building emotional intelligence in my children (and myself!) I could focus on “dealing with the feeling” rather than just reacting.”Annette Nobile Allen

“Roma Khetarpal made a difference in our understanding of what effective parenting really is.”Mark Chadwick

“Thank you, Roma, for taking the time every month to help us become happy, relaxed parents!”Jaya Daryanani

“I use the information I learn in my personal life as well as my professional life… Thanks a million for teaching us how to be mindful of our words, our tone, and our body language.”Gina Rai

“Kudos to you and your team for all the compassion, dedication, and passion in making our children’s world a better place one insight at a time.”Sharmila Daryanani McGowen, LMFT

“Tools of Growth was just what I needed… what she taught me works with the whole family.” Cheryl Bermeo

Parents Say…

Real quotes from real parents

Tools of Growth is in California, United States.

Supporting hospital staff in the challenging service they offer is an essential! If you live in the area, join us, every Tuesday, for a FREE in-person mindfulness facilitated by our UCLA Mindful team hosted at Hospital Santa Mônica by Madelyne | meditation teacher . Honored to be part of it! #mindfulness #mindfulmeditation #mindfulnessinhospitals #meditation ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

#Evolve2023 with Dr Shefali : Twenty years from now, I know I’m going to look back at the work done at Evolve 2023 with Dr. Shefali as one of my top 5 life experiences. Having been at Evolve since its inception in 2015, it’s been my life’s honor to watch our global community evolve in consciousness and grow in numbers. This year 28 countries grew with us. I say that because of the intention and dedication that the attendees from each country so fiercely expressed and shared — determined to start their own conscious communities in their own homelands. Over the course of the five day conference, @doctorshefali , with masterful skill and compassion in her wisdom teachings, lead and held nearly 400 of us through deconstruction of our psyche — cultural and natural, a deep dive into our triggers, our individual and collective levels of consciousness, our personal prevalent ego patterns , our connection to our presence/awareness and our universal oneness. On the last day (my absolute favorite), the teachings were sealed and the seeds planted into the soil of our consciousness through simple meditations and interactive Metta (loving kindness) practices. My heart is full with gratitude and soul deeply nourished, both as a volunteer of the BEST team ever (go TEAM EVOLVE!) and as a beneficiary to the wisdom teachings. Personally, as always, under the pretense to serve our audience (😜), I too unpacked, deconstructed, connected deeper into consciousness, detangling the knots of challenges I’ve faced this year. The highlight is that I got to do the work alongside the best sister on the planet @simolite / @onewithsimi Infinite love and gratitude to @doctorshefali for her wisdom teachings, our stellar volunteers in Team Evolve and our beautiful attendees. Our learning expanded and deepened with our dynamic guest speakers @sophiegregoiretrudeau @elenabrower @sarahedmondson . Thank you for your candid shares and anchored presence. We are bound together in this experience forever. What a gift! 🙏 ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Mindful Play Leader’s, Session 1 of 3: Mindfulness training for recess and PE staff @wiseschoolla ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Each year I grow and learn more from and with my students at @wiseschoolla . This year, I taught Mindfulness to 4th and 6th grades. Some have been my students for three years and I’ve witnessed their consistent growth alongside my own. I’m truly moved by how open and interested young minds are to mindfulness — to understanding their inner world and using this knowledge and the tools they learned through the year to be in the present moment and connect with themselves and understand the subtle movements within their minds, emotions, physical bodies and their five senses. So proud of my kids and grateful to serve this calling. A big shoutout to and gratitude to @wiseschoolla for their forward thinking offering of mindfulness classes at school and to my alma mater @uclamindful #TMF program. #mindfulness #mindfulnessforkids #mindfulnessforchildren ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

If there ONE parenting book you focus on this year, THIS is it! Life changing, The Parenting Map by Dr. Shefali — showcased today on Good Morning America . Congratulations Dr. Shefali. You continue to show parents how to deepen their connection with their kids. Isn’t this WHY we have children??!! #consciousparenting is a movement and #TheParentingMap is the roadmap. ... See MoreSee Less

Dr. Shefali talks new book, ‘The Parenting Map’

www.goodmorningamerica.com

The clinical psychologist explains the “conscious parenting” style and expert Rachel Simmons shares how to maintain a balance of partnership while still being in charge with your kids.

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth is in California, United States.

It is heartwarming to experience schools return to mindfulness trainings for their classified staff! Session one was received with open hearts and minds. This group of 35 Classified Staff included playground and Campus Supervisors, Behavioral Intervention Staff and Special Ed staff @theacceleratedschools Los Angeles. Truly fulfilling to equip this group with mindfulness tools to connect with students of inner city demographics where domestic violence, abuse, trauma and negligence all show up on the playground and before and after school. Next session, Jan 3rd. Thank you, @theacceleratedschools for your advocacy of mindfulness and for this opportunity to serve! #mindfullness #emotionalintelligence #MindfulCommunication #ConnectionWithKids #MindfulnessTraining #mindfulnessinschools #classifiedstaff #paraeducator ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

As we flow from one year to the next, the growth and resilience we built in 2021 will fuel us to persevere into 2022. As we crave normalcy and balance, may we all remember that we have learnt to ride the waves of change and tides of the unknown. Let’s use those skills to hold ourselves and each other — our family, friends and communities — with equanimity and mindfulness. We are powerful as individuals and powerhouses collectively. Let’s flow and grow together once again. The word of 2021 was “perseverance”. Persevere we will! Wishing you a year of renewed hope, abundant health and refreshed perseverance. ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Yes, taking a wellness break. Mindfulness Meditation Monday returns Monday, November 15th.See you soon!#parenting #mindfulness #money #teenagers #technology #mindfulparenting #theperfectparent #consciousparenting #children #Education #mindfuleducation #MondayMeditation #toolsofgrowth #romakhetarpal #coaching #ParentingTools #relaxed #mindful #pandemic #mindfulliving #mindfulnessmeditation #CoronavirusPandemic #mindfulmeditation #mindfulkids #meditationcoach #Wellness #mentalhealth #parentingtips ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth is at Castaic Lake.

Never before has mindful communication been brought to Junior lifeguard instructors! Back in 2019, I taught the VERY first (EVER), Mindful Junior Lifeguard Leadership Program in the US @castaicjgs and @bolsa_chica_jgs . These trainings provided the instructors with mindful communication tools to lead our aspiring Junior Lifeguard children! So happy and grateful to be invited back as a keynote speaker to take this nation wide. Life is full of surprise gifts — I still have to pinch myself when I think about how this manifested from my Mindful Parenting book #theperfectparent #mindfulness #mindfulleadership #juniorlifeguard #juniorlifeguardcamp #juniorlifeguardinstructors #juniorlifeguardprogram ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

I’m wondering if I’m living my one life that I have to live in a way that is aligned with my well-being. My biggest growth has always come from moments of self-reflecting, self-regulating and letting go of what I could not change or meet in yesterday, the day before or the past. In defending my roles as mother, wife, mindfulness educator etc etc etc, I drown in busyness and pay the price of losing my personal connection with the present moment. If we are all busy “doing” because we have wired ourselves to be defined by and be defensive of our roles and responsibilities, we need to dive deeper into mindfulness.I know I am not alone in this. I also know that all those that regularly attend these Monday sessions find comfort in leaning into the weekly practices of mindfulness. They give us pause. They give us calm. They reset our busyness habits to take us to the baseline of returning to our inner homes to rest and refuel.If you’re intrigued to uncover more on this, these practices are FREE to access on my School of Growth school-of-growth-for-parents.teachable.com/ platform under Mindfulness Meditation Monday. Hope you feel inspired enough to join us in strengthening our mindfulness muscles as we lift the weight of our daily responsibilities and undertakings. If you’re a regular or a beginner, I’m grateful that I get to build my own practice with you and I look forward to seeing you tonight from 8:00 – 8:30pm PST for a FREE mindfulness and meditation workout!To register here bit.ly/mmmwithroma #parenting #mindfulness #money #teenagers #technology #mindfulparenting #theperfectparent #consciousparenting #children #education #mindfuleducation #mondaymeditation #toolsofgrowth #romakhetarpal #coaching #parentingtools #relaxed #mindful #pandemic #mindfulliving #mindfulnessmeditation #coronaviruspandemic #mindfulmeditation #mindfulkids #meditationcoach #zoomwebinar #freewebinar #parentingtips #wellness #mentalhealth ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Last week, my awareness clung to my dissatisfied and complaining mind as I broke a glass while trying to finish drying my hair in a rush. I felt like I was in a tunnel of negative emotions. You see, my nephew from London and my two kids were waiting downstairs for breakfast, yelling “MOOOOOMMMM” every chance they got (Yes, even adult children do that). My mindfulness practice from last week of “Look UP!” came to the rescue. As I looked up and took a breath, my three adult children were standing in front of me! Within a few minutes the mess was cleaned up. All I did was observe the magic!My eyes teared up, and my heart was full of gratitude and appreciation. I had entered the present moment with openness, curiosity, and a willingness to be with what was. That’s the classic definition of mindfulness! This is why I’m dedicated to learning and facilitating the practice of mindfulness. It shows up in what might seem like the “little stuff” of life, highlighting the importance of bringing our awareness to the present moment. This does not happen magically, of course! It happens when we believe in, commit to, and practice mindfulness in daily activities. Join me every Monday and today from 8:00 - 8:30pm for Session 7 of practices from How to Train a Wild Elephant by the brilliant Jan Chozen Bays MD. Together, every Monday, we learn a little about mindfulness, practice a little guided meditation, and take away a practice for the week to build our mindfulness muscle. The side effect is a more peaceful and calmer life, leading to peaceful and calm relationships with ourselves and our loved ones. Each practice stands alone. You won’t feel like you’ve missed out. Best part: IT’S FREE!To register here: bit.ly/mmmwithromaAccess to previous sessions for FREE through -- bit.ly/TOG-mmm #parenting #mindfulness #mindfulparenting #theperfectparent #consciousparenting #children #education #mindfuleducation #mondaymeditation #toolsofgrowth #romakhetarpal #coaching #parentingtools #relaxed #mindful #mindfulliving #mindfulnessmeditation #mindfulmeditation #meditationcoach #mindfulnesspractice#parentingtip #wellness #mentalhealth ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Mindfulness Meditation Monday: How to Train a Wild Elephant - Week 6 - mailchi.mp/0b047871593d/mindfulness-meditation-monday-how-to-train-a-wild-elephant-week-6 ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

OMORROW at 6:30pm PST -- Mindful Parenting with a Pandemic Parenting Essentials toolbox. Presented by the District Wellness Department at William S.Hart Union School District William S. Hart Union High School District -- I'll be sharing mindfulness perspectives and tools to .1. Support your children through anxiety and stress and2. Build your own mental-wealth3. Strengthen both communication and connection with your k#parentingn#mindfulnessl#teenagersa#mindfulparentingn#theperfectparenta#consciousparentingn#childrenl#Educationa#mindfuleducationa#toolsofgrowthr#romakhetarpala#coachingc#ParentingToolst#relaxedl#mindfuln#mindfullivingi#mindfulnessmeditationa#parentingtipsg#Wellnessl#mentalhealthe#pandemicparentingn#mindfulperspectivective ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Mindfulness Meditation Monday:We’re in session five of our 8 week How to Train a Wild Elephant practice group -- bringing mindfulness into our daily activities. Last session’s practice of “Secret Act of Virtue” certainly challenged many of us! Thanks for your shares on our WhatsApp group. Pivoting to the new practice of “Noticing Smells” was certainly fun and applicable with more ease in daily activities. There’s a quote in a Hindu scriptures that says, "The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine". It's a no-brainer then that as we commit to inviting mindfulness into our daily routine, we build mental wealth and good health for our future. So please join me tonight for the unveiling of another surprise mindfulness practice that we can weave into our week ahead.Registration LINK bit.ly/mmmwithromaYou can also access all previous sessions for FREE -- bit.ly/TOG-mmmSee you tonight at 8pm PST.#parenting #mindfulness #money #teenagers #technology #mindfulparenting #theperfectparent #consciousparenting #children #education #mindfuleducation #mondaymeditation ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Partnership-worthy : #toolsofgrowth and William S. Hart Union High School District ! With the spotlight on mental-wellbeing, grateful to William S. Hart Union School District for being a forward thinking leader with their advocacy of Mindful Parenting during this pandemic. If you are part of this district, please check your email or contact the District Wellness Department to access the Zoom link for this forum meeting on September 15th at 6:30pm. #parenting #mindfulness #teenagers #mindfulparenting #theperfectparent #consciousparenting #children #Education #mindfuleducation #toolsofgrowth #romakhetarpal #coaching #ParentingTools #relaxed #mindful #mindfulliving #mindfulnessmeditation #parentingtips #Wellness #mentalhealth ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Mindful Parenting, Pandemic Parenting Essentials -- Hosted by the District Wellness Department, it's an honor to be the keynote speakeWilliam S. Hart Union High School Districttrict first 2022 school year Parent Forum. With over 22,000 students enrolled in this district, I intend to make an impact by providing mindfulness perspectives and tools that boost connection and ease anxiety and stress, both for parents and students. If you are part of this district, please check your email or contact the District Wellness Department to access the Zoom link for this forum meeting on September 15th at 6:30p#parentingn#mindfulnessl#teenagersa#mindfulparentingn#theperfectparenta#consciousparentingn#childrenl#Educationa#mindfuleducationa#toolsofgrowthr#romakhetarpala#coachingc#ParentingToolst#relaxedl#mindfuln#mindfullivingi#mindfulnessmeditationa#parentingtipsg#Wellnessl#mentalhealthealth ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Now, here’s the challenge we are facing. As we watch video after video on social media, our spiritual mind-set is certainly evolving, but not many of us are invested in a “practice”—a commitment to sit in meditation (or quiet) to experience the wisdom teachings of the inner world. Our differences in personality lead to another issue: Many of us cannot find calm or quiet in our minds, and that keeps us at the evolution stage. Practice is what infuses transformation. And if we cannot sit still to practice, the question is how do we bring wisdom teachings into our daily lives? Evolution happens in a group, community or as a humanity. Transformations require a form — an individual commitment. Now, here’s the challenge we are facing. As we watch video after video on social media, our spiritual mind-set is certainly evolving,but not many of us are invested in a “practice”—a commitment to sit in meditation (or quiet) to experience the wisdom teachings of the inner world. Our differences in personality lead to another issue: Many of us cannot find calm or quiet in our minds, and that keeps us at the evolution stage. Practice is what infuses transformation. And if we cannot sit still to practice, the question is how do we bring wisdom teachings into our daily lives? This is why I’m such a big advocate of informal mindfulness practices, which bring the wisdom perspective into our daily life. In this eight week group practice session of weekly informal practices from the book, How to Train a Wild Elephant, together we enter transformation and mindfulness through our daily activity . To read more or access previous weeks and/or to register for today’s session, go to link in Bio.#parenting #mindfulness #money #teenagers #technology #mindfulparenting #theperfectparent #consciousparenting #children #education #mindfuleducation #mondaymeditation ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

Last Monday, we had a stellar turnout for week 2 of the “How to Train a Wild Elephant” Practice Group. In this 8-week experience, together, every week, we commit to a particular exercise that assists in bringing mindfulness into daily activities. There’s a particular peace in a formal meditation practice where we dedicate a certain amount of time (daily or otherwise) to observe the ebbs, flows, and pauses of our mind. But it’s a whole different experience to practice informally by paying attention to the activity of the moment.To find out what’s in store for this week, you’ll have to join us! Can’t wait to see you tonightTo register here: ow.ly/Cyaj50FVJv2 #mindfulness #meditation #monday #toolsofgrowth #howtotrainawildelephant #parenting #mindfulness #lifebalance #teenagers #technology #mindfulparenting #theperfectparent #consciousparenting #children #education #mindfuleducation #mondaymeditation ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

MMM How to Train a Wild Elephant — Week 3 - mailchi.mp/ea07871c6094/mmm-how-to-train-a-wild-elephant-week-3-13417859 ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Tools of Growth

A warm hug to each of you on Mindfulness Meditation Monday. It is my intention to send out good vibes in the universe as often as I can. It’s a difficult time (again!) globally, and we need each other’s positive frequencies to build our collective resilience to traverse this time together. This week’s practice is going to be fun and challenging! It is a session that you’ll want to bribe your kids to join! ISee you tonight! mailchi.mp/77f2c4978d89/mmm-how-to-train-a-wild-elephant-week-2 ... See MoreSee Less

View on Facebook

Get Social

Like, tweet, pin and more!

Parenting tips!

Roma’s tips and tricks sent right to your inbox

What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.