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Tools of Growth

Parents today face extreme pressure to get everything exactly right, which can make parenting feel so stressful. In this episode of 60 Mindful Minutes we discuss:

- Exploring what we gain and how we grow from our role as parents;
- How to create a good relationship with our kids;
- How good communication is at the core of a great relationship with our kids;
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How to Connect with Your Kids with Roma Khetarpal

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Parents today face extreme pressure to get everything exactly right, which can make parenting feel so stressful. In her book, The ”Perfect” Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids, author Roma Khetarpal offers new clarity and a parenting approach that’s rooted...

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2020 —> 2021
What is in our control?
- The Pandemic is STILL not in our control.
- The effects of the #BlackLivesMatter Movement are making progress slowly, very very slowly.
- Our political climate is a mess!
- The Capitol’s attack last week was out of control.
- The happenings of Jan 20th are an unknown.

So what is in our control?
- HOW WE MANAGE OUR RESPONSE to the uncontrollable happenings of life.

- What is in our control is how WE show up to meet the chaos. THIS is very much in our control — but it requires us to build our MINDFULNESS MUSCLE, our MINDFULNESS MIGHT.

This is not a one-time shot. This is a CONTINUING PRACTICE. One that has a tremendous effect in our lives and then a ripple effect into the lives of our family, friends, community, nation, world, universe.

This is why our Mindfulness Meditation Monday (MMM) family meets EVERY MONDAY to learn new mindfulness tools and build our mindfulness might. It’s easy, it’s beautiful, it’s empowering, it’s 30 MINUTES and it’s FREE. It’s a fallback like no other!

Join us! Register HERE: bit.ly/mmmwithroma

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Happy Holidays from our family to yours!

Please take some time off to reconnect with your Soul — so we may collectively enter the new year with strength, hope and healing.

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Don’t you agree that our children would benefit from Mindfulness Meditation as well? Don’t you think that building their mindfulness muscle early in life will help them through their own challenges, including those that they face during this pandemic?

I’d like to invite you to bring your children or any family member to our upcoming Family Mindfulness. Meditation. Monday where I will offer your little ones and loved ones a small but fun dose of mindfulness, a bit of simple meditation, while sharing with them the immense gratitude for this year that we have all traversed together as family! It’s just a 30-minute drop-in, and it’s FREE!

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Mindfulness. Meditation. Monday — An honor to be live-streamed on OC India Association . Please join me every Monday for a 30 minute free mindfulness meditation drop-in from 8-8:30pm PST.

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We have so much to learn about life from the waves of the ocean.

Live streamed on OC India Association FB page. Grateful for the invitation!

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Not ALONE but ALL-ONE. If there’s one lesson we’ve learnt from 2020, it is this. Physically distanced, socially disconnected, yet ALL-ONE. Please remember this when you or your children feel lonely or isolated. Be there for each other and you will make this come alive within you. Embrace your oneness and lean into each other. This is our collective spiritual mandate for 2021.

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Mindfulness. Meditation. Monday

The Waves of the Ocean: This is the theme for tonight’s Mindfulness. Meditation. Monday practice.

Setting the stage for a peaceful OCEAN MEDITATION, in our mindfulness segment we will explore these questions:
What role does water play in our lives? What is our "felt-sense" of water within and without? Why are we so soothed by it? What can we learn from the waves in the ocean to help us ride the waves of this pandemic?

If you’re single, married, with a partner or a parent, or if you’re a parent yourself, I promise you will take away a life lesson and a valuable experience to practice through this turbulent time.

My intention with every meditation session is to give a practice that you can lean into.

Please join me tonight, Monday, December 14th, from 8-8:30pm PST.

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Mindfulness. Meditation. Monday. What can MEDITATION do for us? How can it sustain us during this pandemic (and always)? What are the reasons that we feel unrest and how can we hold ourselves through it? I invite you to be part of this rich and much needed discussion today from 8-8:30pm PST. It's 30 min and it's FREE.

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#mindfulness #meditation #monday #guidedmeditation #toolsofgrowth #consciousparenting #pandemicsupport #pandemicparenting #minfulparenting #parenting #romakhetarpal ... See MoreSee Less

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A clip from the end of last week's Mindfulness. Meditation. Monday. We are not ALONE, we are ALL-ONE. In this drop-in, we discussed and meditated on our shared RESPONSIBILITY and ABUNDANCE during this second big wave of the pandemic, here in the US. We drew our strength from our shared silence in meditation and recharged -- to carry ourselves and those around us through the difficult upcoming weeks.

Join us next Monday for a little learning on mindfulness, a little meditation and a lot of love for ourselves and those we share our lives with! It's 30 min and it's FREE!

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LIVE on Santa Clarita Valley Education Foundation!

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Tomorrow at 5pm PST! Proud to honor our teachers - WE THINK THE WORLD OF YOU! Please join us in this gratitude event hosted by Santa Clarita Valley Education Foundation . It’s FREE — streamed here on FB! Honored to be a board member! ... See MoreSee Less

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GUILT AND PARENTHOOD are deeply intertwined. This makes it mandatory for us to learn how to manage it. This pandemic has left parents with extremes of mixed feelings: Guilty for wanting our kids back to school and fearful of them going back to school. Then there's the added layer of guilt in talking about it! We don't want to be judged as "bad parents". This constant inner turbulence can leave us feeling exhausted and depleted. So let's talk about it.

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Santa Clarita Valley Education Foundation hosts Teacher Tribute 2020 this Friday, Dec 4th at 5pm! Our teachers deserve extra special love this year. Join us in honoring these leaders in our Santa Clarita Community. Thank you SCVTV Santa Clarita for partnering with us!

Honored to be a board member of this organization that leads with compassion, empathy and kindness.Honoring our Newhall Teacher Tribute 2020 honorees! Are you ready to celebrate this Friday? Make sure to tune in to our Facebook page or SCVTV to celebrate at 5pm! ... See MoreSee Less

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Guided Meditation is a mindfulness-mind-training. It’s a skill we learn and a quality we build with practice. The rest of the benefits — like patience, even mindedness, kindness — unfold naturally.

This is WHY we meet every Monday from 8-8:30 pm PST. This is HOW we hold ourselves and each other through the week. This is WHAT we need right now more than ever before.

I invite you to join our Mindfulness Meditation Monday family. It’s FREE. bit.ly/TOG-mmm

Some of you on Central and Eastern time have requested a time that would work better for you. I’m proposing Tuesday at 5pm or 8pm EST. Leave your preferred time in the comments. Thank you for reaching out!

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Happy GratitudeGiving to you and your loved ones. Acknowledging that we've had a challenging year while holding hands with gratitude for all the learning and growing we've experienced this year. This does feel enough.

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Trying to figure out the best toys/products for your children for the holidays? Your search is over! Join Kristin Bednarz and I, along with leading developmental toy companies, in this FREE online series, The Purposeful Parent Toybox! thepurposefulparenttoybox.com/?ref=RomaK

In this series, you will be introduced to toys and products that will optimize your children’s overall development! In addition to these high-quality toys, we are also featuring companies that provide gifts to enhance family bonding and gifts to nurture mindfulness/emotional intelligence! As an added bonus, many of the companies are offering discount codes exclusively for this series! thepurposefulparenttoybox.com/?ref=RomaK ... See MoreSee Less

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Last week's Abundance, Responsibility and Silence practice with you really nurtured my heart. I do hope your practice of spotting abundance, stepping up to responsibility or turning to stillness or silence was helpful in lifting up your own spirits and serving those of others. Your real life shares always touch my heart and inspire me to keep leaning into learning deeper and deeper.

Today, we'll dedicate a special practice for our children -- your own or the one's in your family or friends' network. It's been a rough ride for our children and they need our high vibes. If each one of you is present, imagine the uplifting, ripple effect we can send to our children!

Please join me. All meditations are FREE and can be accessed 24/7/365 here: bit.ly/TOG-mmm

#mindfulness #meditation #monday #toolsofgrowth #romakhetarpal #guidedmeditation #pandemicsupport #consciousparenting #mindfulparenting #parentingtips ... See MoreSee Less

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To find toys that are fun and optimize children's overall development is so time consuming for a parent -- especially during this pandemic. I love what my friend, Kristin Bednarz is doing! SHE IS DOING THE WORK FOR US: HAND PICKED TOYS BY AN EXPERT! Join this community of parents where holiday shopping is made easier and you get tons of education and savings!

Honored to be featured in The Purposeful Parent Toybox! Special discounts on my Mindful Relaxed Parenting courses. Sign up for FREE.Looking for the BEST developmental gifts for your children for the holidays that have real staying power? Look no further!

Our children’s minds were designed to learn, explore, discover, and create! Children are hard-wired to test ideas, find answers, and try things over and over again to find a solution that works. They crave opportunities where they can let their growing minds run wild! HOW can we capitalize on this and provide them with toys and products for the holidays to nurture this hard-wired curiosity?

Join me, along with leading developmental toy companies, in this FREE online series, The Purposeful Parent Toybox to learn about toys and products that will optimize your children’s overall development!

In addition to these high-quality toys, we are also featuring companies that provide gifts to enhance family bonding and gifts to nurture mindfulness/emotional intelligence! As an added bonus, many of the companies are offering discount codes exclusively for this series!

Join FREE here: thepurposefulparenttoybox.com/Kristin

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The holidays are here. Can we celebrate holding hands with both ABUNDANCE and RESPONSIBILITY? Fear and love?

This year, our Diwali reflection circled around two main topics: Abundance and Responsibility. Both equally strong in nature yet closely integrated. How does abundance and responsibility tie into our current circumstances of the rising numbers with the pandemic? What will/should the other upcoming holidays looks like for each of our families? Let's explore this when you join our MMM community tonight!

Please remember to register. (link in bio) Can't wait to see you tonight.

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.