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It is so easy to just say no but being a positive parent means responding more positively too.

How do you change your words?

Try these terms to see if your children start responding differently! ... See MoreSee Less

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Are you feeling disconnected from your kids?

Here are 4 secrets that I still use today with my adult children!

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TOMORROW is almost here! I will be a speaker at #Evolve19! Dr. Shefali has put together an amazing event with some great speakers for you to help us all live the best life possible!

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“Parents, you can relax! The “Perfect” Parent reassures you that you can trust your child raising instincts. It also provides you with five tools to remember when you hit a rough patch.”

— David Walsh, Ph.D. Psychologist and author of Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen, Founder of Mind Positive Parenting Spark & Stitch Institute formerly Mind Positive Parenting

Get Started:
The ''Perfect'' Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids www.amazon.com/dp/1626341036/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_aw1PDbHCN7ZNR ... See MoreSee Less

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I could not be MORE excited! My first course, Mindful Teacher Training - Teach to Reach, is happening!! I just sent out the course toolbox to Swarthmore Friends Nursery School! I will be doing the course for them on October23!

See more of what I sent and how it works below! Contact me for your own course too! ... See MoreSee Less

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It is the one time a day that you should be silent and listen to the joy and amazement of childhood!

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3 days ago ·

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Our #TOGTuesdayBlogPost went a little early this week. With the #CaliforniaFires reminding us that it is fire season here in California, I thought it important to share some TIPS AND TOOLS TO UPLIFT YOUR FAMILY VIBES!

Read it and many prayers that everyone is safe!

toolsofgrowth.com/blog/california-fires-tips-and-tools-to-uplift-your-family-vibes/ ... See MoreSee Less

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“Don’t be selfish. Share your toys with your sister, please.”

“Why won’t you share your candy with your brother? It’s not nice to keep it to yourself.”

“You need to share the iPad with Jeffrey. It’s his turn.”

“If you don’t share your things, no one will want to play with you. Let Cathy take a ride on your bike.”

Are you always begging your child to share? Read my 4 things to think about - they may help you!

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What terms do you use when referring to your child that could be altered to a more positive light?

'Sensitive'? 'Challenging'? 'She keeps me on my toes!'?

Re-phrase your words to compliment instead of contributing to self-doubt... ... See MoreSee Less

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As the #CaliforniaFires start to be contained, we still have a long way to go to recovery.

It can weigh on a family to stay positive and to look to the future. Here are some tips that can help us an early #TOGTuesdayBlogPost! ... See MoreSee Less

5 days ago ·

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Tools of Growth shared a Dr. Shefali and Kyle Cease discuss the Importance of Self-Growth.

Heading to #Evolve19? Listen to Dr. Shefali talk to one of the speakers, Kyle Cease, about the importance of self growth ahead of time!

I can not wait to see all of you there! ... See MoreSee Less

6 days ago ·

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In 2017 I attended the Positive Parenting Conference. I still love the conversation and it is still valid!

Thank you to Positive Parenting Village by AFineParent.Com for the opportunity to talk on such an important subject!

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Roma Khetarpal from the Positive Parenting Conference (A Fine Parent)

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I have to admit, I stopped and really looked at this one for a while. It really made me think... are we harder on kids for their mistakes than we are on ourselves for ours?

Thank you, Allison Mark, PsyD, PA, for making me look at mistakes differently! ... See MoreSee Less

7 days ago ·

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What are the actual 'Tools' for Growth? They are questions that we should always ask ourselves...

AM I A GOOD PARENT?
SHOULD I BE SPENDING MORE TIME WITH MY KIDS?
WAS I TOO HARSH?
WILL I HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH MY CHILDREN?
WILL MY CHILD TURN OUT OKAY?

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As I continue work on my second book I want to share my first one with you! The 'Perfect' Parent was a wonderful experience for me. Mainly because it connected me to so many parents that really felt it helped them! That warmed my heart more than anything else!

Learn more about the book and order yours too: amzn.to/31ZUTVk

I talk a little about it here as well... ... See MoreSee Less

The "Perfect" Parent

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Oh I love love this one!!

Part of being #mindful as you raise your children is being able to help each one thrive with who they are. All alone without the competition of a sibling to shadow and be compared to! ... See MoreSee Less

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October 18 - 21 in Long Beach, CA, I will be a speaker, along with author Mashonda Tifrere and comedian Kyle Cease, at #Evolve19!

This experience is in its 5th year, the brainchild of Dr. Shefali aims to help you find the balance and enlightenment in life that makes it meaningful!

Get your tickets and I will see you there: www.evolvewithdrshefali.com ... See MoreSee Less

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Think about it.... what are you teaching your kids by your own actions?

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Tools of Growth shared a post.

The Atomic Moms podcast last week featured YouTube star, GloZell! A first time mom at 44, she shares her story and how to work and raise a toddler without letting go of what you want!

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'If you’ve caught yourself before you exploded, and playing the switch game has gotten you on your way to resolve, congratulations! If, however, you have already reacted, know that redemption is totally possible when you reflect, reconnect, and redirect!'

This week on our #TOGTuesdayBlogPost I talk about 3 quick tools to help you with the hardest job on the planet.... Parenting!!

What other advice can you share to help too?

#MindfulParenting #ConciousParenting

READ IT: toolsofgrowth.com/blog/3-quick-tools-to-simplify-the-hardest-job-in-the-world-parenting/ ... See MoreSee Less

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.