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Still working with the morning battlefield? It might just take a simple conversation, a moment of listening to find out why and how to resolve it. Roma Khetarpal ... See MoreSee Less

Taking the Time to Listen with Kids | Tools of Growth

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Julius Cesar said, “Experience is the teacher of all things.” In all my parenting workshops, talks, and consultations, I advocate that parents try the tools that I give them and then “experience” the new experience. The experience will teach you what you need to learn, and you can decide whe...

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Turn your morning battlefield into a creative exercise with these tips from The New York Times. ... See MoreSee Less

Why Kids Fight Getting Dressed

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Every morning is a living nightmare.

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Are you living with anxiety? Does it come across to others as being over-involved or as avoidance? Atomic Moms and Dr. Kathleen Smith discusses how to finally calm down in this week's podcast. Don't miss out! ... See MoreSee Less

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Ellie Knaus celebrates and commiserates with world class experts, best-selling authors, and listeners around the world on Atomic Moms podcast. She shares the sweet and messy journey of her growing family and welcomes complex discussions on topics from postpartum anxiety to schooling to marriage afte...

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How often do we end up mimicking certain phrases and body language from our own parents to our children? How effective is it, really? This Sunday Mindful Parenting Perspective reminds us that "Parenting is... repairing our broken past as it shows up." Roma Khetarpal ... See MoreSee Less

Parenting is ... repairing our broken past as it shows up. | Tools of Growth

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Parenting is ... repairing our broken past as it shows up. Every year, when my husband and son leave for their two-week-long hiking trip to the foot of the Himalayas, my girlfriend and I set aside a night for a sleepover at my home. The highlight of our time together earlier this week was watching t...

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Wondering how to be involved in your child's extracurricular activities without your child wondering about trust? Use this simple phrase to lay your child's worries to rest. Roma Khetarpal ... See MoreSee Less

I Love To Watch You Play | Tools of Growth

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So much of parenting revolves around watching your children learn new things. There is nothing more wonderful than seeing that little click in their eyes as they understand a new concept or seeing the joy on their faces as they master a new skill. We encourage them, praise them, coach them, and comm...

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Play is so integral in the development of literacy and communication. Thank you, Amanda Not Just Cute - Intentional Whole Child Development ... See MoreSee Less

Why Play Pretend When We’re Trying to Build Readers?

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I noticed my 2 1/2 year old walking around the back yard the other day with a small rectangular rock nestled in the palm of his hand. I watched as he excitedly moved it around as he energetically ...

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Are you still having doubts about "Mindful Parenting?" Do you think "meditating" isn't for you? Think of it from a different perspective and you'll come to realize it is more than what you think. Roma Khetarpal ... See MoreSee Less

Mindful | Tools of Growth

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The other day, I heard a parent say, “I can’t do the mindful parenting thing. It’s not my style. I’m not into meditation. It’s too hard for me.” That comment reinforced something I already knew: When it comes to parenting, the word mindful is easily misunderstood. That probably is the fa...

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One year ago, Dr. Shefali made a powerful statement about recognizing your own consciousness and personal transformation and how this personal consciousness informs and affects the way we parent our children, and even our own inner child. ... See MoreSee Less

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Today is National Nothing Day, so remember to "Take 5" minutes to do absolutely "nothing" with your children. Simply sit or lay together and let time flow naturally. ... See MoreSee Less

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Do you find it hard to make time to connect with your child? It doesn't have to be time consuming or hard! Try any of these 10 tips to create a more inclusive and nurturing environment for your little one. Psychology Today ... See MoreSee Less

10 Daily Rituals that Help Parents Bond with Young Children

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These simple, effective rituals can be completed in 10 minutes or less.

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Words of wisdom from Roma Khetarpal's award winning book. Find out more about "Planting Self-Confidence" in your child and much much more from this outstanding book! The ''Perfect'' Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids www.amazon.com/dp/1626341036/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_9a-hEb6N8G5E1 ... See MoreSee Less

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Nervous about roughhousing play? Green Child Magazine lays out the benefits of letting your children play rough while also adding some tips on how to keep it safe. ... See MoreSee Less

Positive Parenting: Roughhousing & Developmental Play

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Roughhousing comes naturally to young animals and humans. Here’s how to keep your kids safe and respectful without having to feel like a full-time referee.

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Have you signed up for this great opportunity to start off 2020 with compassion? Make sure to do so soon! ... See MoreSee Less

Radical Compassion Challenge | Register Today!

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With the Radical Compassion Challenge, renowned meditation teacher and international bestselling author Tara Brach invites you to a free transformational 10-day online event to help build a global movement of compassion in action.

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Spoiler alert! The secret involves maintaining an empathetic relationship with your child. Click on the link below to learn more about how to establish and grow an empathetic relationship with your child. AhaParenting.com ... See MoreSee Less

Why empathic limits help kids develop self discipline.

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Wondering how to encourage your child's imagination and growth? A lot of it has to do with letting go of your idea of "perfection" and letting them have a hand at creating their own play. Green Child Magazine ... See MoreSee Less

How NOT to Crush Your Child's Creativity

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As a parent who wants to nurture your child’s creativity, you'll want to be aware of the ways parents and teachers can crush a child's creativity.

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As we head back into classrooms, what kinds of intentions are your children or students setting for the semester? Edutopia ... See MoreSee Less

Intention-Setting in the Classroom

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Asking middle school students to focus on their guiding principles can lead them to more productive individual and group work.

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What do you do when things don't go according to plan? Today on the Sunday Mindful Parenting Perspective Roma Khetarpal talks about how Parenting is... accepting that only half of what you plan will actually happen. ... See MoreSee Less

Parenting is ... accepting that only half of what you plan will actually happen. | Tools of Growth

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It’s 12 days into the year, and I’m buried in planning and preparing for the launch of my upcoming Mindful Teacher Training online course. Back in early September, when I started recording the video portion, the launch date was set for November 15, right before Thanksgiving. We ran into a few gl...

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Having trouble with your younger children's meltdowns or behavior? Sometimes all it takes is a reminder of what you expect from them as a small task or adventure to help them tone down. Repeat and Remind as Green Child Magazine puts it. ... See MoreSee Less

Avoid Meltdowns by Setting Expectations Children Can Understand

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Setting expectations in advance (and reminding your child of them often) is a great positive parenting tool to help avoid meltdowns.

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Finding a way to address recent news can be hard when you don't know all the answers. Here is some quick information and some tips on how to inform your child on the situation TIME ... See MoreSee Less

How to Talk to Your Kids About the Situation With Iran

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A guide for parents from TIME for Kids

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Do you think your take on empathy is enough? Take a look at The Greater Good Science Center's newest research-based article that begs to differ and delves into the power of perspectives ... See MoreSee Less

What Happens When You Tell Your Story and I Tell Mine?

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Sometimes, empathy isn't enough. New research reveals how taking and giving perspectives can help us to bridge our differences.

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.