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"If we want to raise resilient, self-reliant, and confident kids, the only thing we need to watch out for is not stunting their desire for freedom—which first finds expression in small rebellions and arguments. Listen, learn, and make plenty of room for them." via Roma Khetarpal ... See MoreSee Less

What do you and your kids value most? | Tools of Growth

Having spent the last 30 years of life in parenting—including 20 years in helping family and friends with parenting advice, 10 years in teaching parenting classes, and 5 years in parent counseling and education—I will tell you that all disconnects between parents and other adults caring for chil...

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Continuing the gratitude theme from Thanksgiving, we thought it would be fun to sit with your kids and create some gratitude crafts. We really love the Gratitude Jar. ... See MoreSee Less

Five Arts and Crafts Activities That Teach Kids About Gratitude - A Fine Parent

Five easy crafts that include a mixture of one-time art projects and on-going activites to make it easy for teaching kids gratitude and thankfulness.

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What are your toughest parenting struggles? Sometimes it can be very lonely being a parent. We adore our kids but the day-to-day is hard! What really makes this ride seem “hard” is our own resistance to the process of change and growth. ... See MoreSee Less

Why Does Parenting Feel Like the "Hardest" Job in the World? | Tools of Growth

We all have felt “this is so hard!” Sometimes it’s “hard” because we’re physically exhausted, and at other times, it’s because we’re mentally exhausted. And here’s the big one – it’s even harder when we’re emotionally exhausted! Of course, there are also those super hard time...

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Today is Giving Tuesday and we are excited to help the Santa Clarita Valley Education Foundation raise $1,000 to help supplement their Bag of Books Program which now reaches over 2,000 kindergarteners across the Santa Clarita Valley. As the year progresses many books are damaged, worn, and lost (it happens!) so they need to fill those vacancies with MORE books! Please help this cause that is near and dear to my heart. ... See MoreSee Less

You can help SCV schools today!

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We tend to underestimate our kids and what they "need" to keep them entertained. The truth is that they don't need fancy iPads and electronic toys to hold their attention. It's simple entertainment, like that of Mr. Rogers, that can still keep them mesmerized. via Washington Post ... See MoreSee Less

Perspective | What happened when I showed vintage Mister Rogers to my 21st-century kids

My children started to watch 'Mister Rogers' Neighborhood' with me, and what they loved about it showed me what they really need.

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Our thoughts are with the students, teachers, administrators and staff of Saugus High School today as they head back to school. #saugusstrong ... See MoreSee Less

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Do you listen to podcasts? They are a great resource when you don't have the time to sit and read a book. Take our suggestion and add Susan Stiffelman's new podcast to your list. She is sharing her ideas for cultivating gratitude. ... See MoreSee Less

Podcast - Susan Stiffelman, MFT

Parenting Without Power Struggles Podcast Inspiring insights. Invaluable guidance. Practical support. Parenting tips, awesome interviews, and advice for parents oftoddlers through teens about the real-life issues you face. Subscribe now so you’ll be sure to receive the episodes as soon as they are...

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When we are in the midst of our busy parenting years, we ask ourselves questions filled with doubt or guilt: Am I a good parent? Am I doing a good enough job? Am I spending enough time with my kids? Around the holidays we often get so busy in the planning and the prepping that we forget to take some downtime to just BE with our kids. ... See MoreSee Less

Being Available for our Children | Tools of Growth

Being available is all about time – both dedicating time to our kids and being fully present during that time. As parents, we already dedicate a lot of time to our kids. Parents and children are always on the clock: Time to wake up. Time to brush your teeth. Time to get to school. Time to do homew...

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Who has been doing some online shopping this weekend? We've got a great suggestion for you... pick up a copy of The "Perfect" Parent for yourself or for a parent who might be struggling with feeling "not good enough". Get these easy tools you can apply right away to help build amazing communication with your kids. ... See MoreSee Less

The ''Perfect'' Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids

National Parenting Publications Awards (NAPPA) GOLD Award Winner!Parents' Choice Recommended Award Winner!Mom's Choice Gold Award Winner!Get ready for a parenting makeover! If you're a parent today, you face extreme pressure to get everything exactly ''right''--a pursuit of perfection that probab...

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Another amazing recommendation for you - Daniel J. Siegel MD lecturing in Finland and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. have done it again with their new book, The Power of Showing Up.

"One of the very best scientific predictors for how any child turns out—in terms of happiness, academic success, leadership skills, and meaningful relationships—is whether at least one adult in their life has consistently shown up for them."

Now available for pre-order. ... See MoreSee Less

The Power of Showing Up by Daniel J. Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson: 9781524797713 | PenguinRandomHouse.com: Books

Parenting isn’t easy. Showing up is. Your greatest impact begins right where you are. Now the bestselling authors of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline explain what this means over the...

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We're kind of partial to this post from a few years ago. This weekend, don't let the Thanksgiving spirit falter. Remember to tell your kids how grateful you are to have them in your life.

We are grateful for you all! ... See MoreSee Less

Thanksgiving - Being Grateful to Our Children

Telling our kids how much we are Grateful for having them in our lives this Thanksgiving.

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Who stresses at mealtime over whether your kids are going to eat or not? TOG friend, Jeanne-Marie - Voila Montessori , has her latest podcast out all about making mealtime less stressful with little ones. Listen to Episode #15 for support and encouragement. This is going to be a good one! ... See MoreSee Less

EP 15: Q&A - How to make mealtime less stressful with little ones?

Mealtime can bring up a sense of dread and stress for some, but it doesn’t have to, with simple strategies to help you create a positive ritual around nourishing your bodies together as a family.

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I can't wait to get my hands on a copy of Christine Carter's latest book, The New Adolescence: Raising Happy and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety and Distraction.

100% of the profits on pre-orders of The New Adolescence are being donated to fight poverty. Christine is donating everything she earns to Tipping Point Community. Located in the San Francisco Bay Area, Tipping Point is dedicated to breaking the cycle of poverty in families. Great cause and great book! ... See MoreSee Less

The New Adolescence

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With Thanksgiving at hand and feelings of gratitude in the air, I want to draw on the Wheel of Life that I use in teaching my Mindfulness Programs to express my thoughts about different aspects of my life.

And in the spirit of balancing yin and yang, I want to share the challenges that have led to some life lessons.

Read more in my #togtuesdayblogpost (a day later 🙂) - toolsofgrowth.com/blog/giving-thanks-for-our-challenges-in-life/ ... See MoreSee Less

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This is a great week to TUNE IN to being grateful!

Yes, the holiday can be stressful but if you enter into it gratefully and gracefully, you will be joyful and feel more centered! ... See MoreSee Less

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Do your children watch Disney's Andi Mack show?

This discussion led by Dr. Yalda T. Uhls is really good and I love that parents are weighing in on this show.

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Conversations About Andi Mack

Families and youth development expert Dr. Yalda T. Uhls of Common Sense Media, discuss the themes including self-expression, acceptance,...

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You heard me say for months that I was filming my Webinars!

Now my Mindful Teacher Training webinar is UP!

Learn how to get it now: toolsofgrowth.com/blog/mindful-teacher-training-now-online/ ... See MoreSee Less

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Teaching your children is easiest when the lesson is anchored in a trusting love. Use your words kindly to them and watch as they blossom into kind people as well! ... See MoreSee Less

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Instead of always teaching your teen to do the right thing, try teaching them to stay connected.

Of course - you have to stay connected as well!

Read my PG-13 blog post: toolsofgrowth.com/blog/pg-13-ready-or-not/ ... See MoreSee Less

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It was a true blessing to be able to spend some time with the students of the Saugus High School.

I hope that we all can continue to heal by loving and supporting each other.

@SCVEducationFoundation partnered with MyIntent to help these kids! ... See MoreSee Less

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.