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“Kudos to you and your team for all the compassion, dedication, and passion in making our children’s world a better place one insight at a time.”Sharmila Daryanani McGowen, LMFT

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I love this share from Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.!

How we identify our children matters! Labels we put on them can stick. Be sure the one your child is wearing is productive and positive!

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Shooting my webinars has been an eye opening experience.

I have loved creating content that will help parents and teachers have a more #balanced approach when dealing with children.

I can’t wait to unveil them!

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Kindness is our super power. And it starts at home.

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I watched this video from Dr. Shefali and is touched me. As a parent, we often worry about our child and their ability to make friends. To fit in.

But is it the right thing to be concerned with?

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Our Mindful Relaxed Parenting Webinar, part 2, is now complete!!

Here is an update from me and my trusty camera man, Dave!

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This hit a soft spot for me!!

Yes - we want more than anything for our children to live their dreams!

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I can not speak more highly of Dr. Jay Kumar with the Applied Brain Science Research Institute! His work is groundbreaking!

‘With the new school year in full swing, we all desire our kids to thrive and succeed. Discover the "Three Rules"—based on current research in brain science and behavior—for your kids to be more ready, resilient, and responsible in both the classroom and in life.

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Three Rules for Raising Resilient Kids - ABSRI

With the new school year in full swing, we all desire for our kids to thrive and succeed in both the classroom and in life. Yet, current research in brain science and behavior points to an unfolding tragic scenario that’s threatening this goal. A 2019 PEW survey finds that 70% of teens ages 13-17 ...

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They may not be at the top of their class. They may not be the basketball star. They may not like to read. But are your kids still Extraordinary?

Read our #TOGTuesdayBlogPost and decide for yourself: toolsofgrowth.com/blog/your-kids-are-they-ordinary-or-extraordinary/

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I often hear people joke that ‘ears are wasted on children.’

The truth is, Kids DO listen! To everything we say. But how we communicate with them can hinder how they listen!

Here are 4 things that may be blocking their hearing when you talk to them! They can help you be more #mindful of how you communicate and may help bridge the gap!

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Our #MondayMotivation is easy...

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I am so excited that I get to be a part of #Evolve19 with Dr. Shefali!

We are all so conditioned to please others or make sure we “look” good. This unnecessary pressure we then pass on to our children — even though unintentionally . Yikes!

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I love meeting people who have discovered my first book, ‘The ‘Perfect’ Parent!

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As an #aware parent you should play with them as well! It strengthens the bond and helps establish the connection needed to deal with conflict!

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I am a firm believer that taking time to just 'be' parent and child with no phones, no TV and no distractions strengthens the bond in a family. We are ALL busy but making the time to take a walk, to have a meal or to just sit and talk can make all the difference in your day!

What do you do during your 'free' time?

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I love this!

Yes - our children should have responsibilities and some expectations. But they also need grace and understanding...

What do you think?

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Starting to do some research on how to be a more #mindful parent?

This article on Mindful.org has 5 Mindful Tips for Parenting Conundrums.

What tips would you add?

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5 Tips For Mindful Parenting - Mindful

Mindful parenting begins when we can train ourselves to give space for some 'being' instead of always 'doing'. Introduce the idea of mindfulness to children by

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Your daily funny!!!

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Children are affected by tragedy differently than we are. It is our job as #conscious parents to listen and calmly help them through it. Even if we are going through it with them.

I have some great tips to help you out as you navigate through those really tough times #ontheblog.

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'But how do we transform our parenting experience from barely surviving to happily thriving?' - DANIEL J. SIEGEL, M.D., wrote on the Maria Shriver website.

This is a GREAT question and I love the 'Four S' principals that can help center us as we navigate the parenting world as #Aware, #mindful parents!

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Why We Need to 'Show Up' to Successfully Parent Ourselves | Maria Shriver

Why We Need to ‘Show Up’ to Successfully Parent Ourselvesby DANIEL J. SIEGEL, M.D. Raising a human being is a profoundly challenging task—if you are having a tough time, you are not alone. When caregiving is experienced as a burden, this important job can feel overwhelming, distressing, and so...

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.