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Tools of Growth

Clip 5 from my Q&A on Mindful Parenting ...

@drmonica asks about my most sought after, tried and tested tool: TAKE 5

Here it is explained! Are you up for the challenge to do “NO-THING” with your children?

Game on! Leave a ❤️ if you love what you hear and are willing to try it!

#Theperfectparent #mindfulparenting #consciousparenting #mindfuleducation #parentingtips #mindful #toolsofgrowth #romakhetarpal #mindfulliving #parents #parenting

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Q4:

Clip 4 from my Q&A on Mindful Parenting ...

Being “woke” is a vibe
What is “raising children” REALLY all about?
@drmonica and I explore how we can relax into parenting and grow with our kids — without comparing and feeling judged!

#Theperfectparent #mindfulparenting #consciousparenting #mindfuleducation#parentingtips #mindful #toolsofgrowth #romakhetarpal #mindfulliving #parenting

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Clip 3 from my Q&A on Mindful Parenting .

Authentically and candidly, sharing her own grief and ride as a single parent, @drmonicapharmd asks about single parenting and the pressures that come with it.

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Our choices affect us, our children and our families. Choices can be impulsive, subconscious, intellectual, or emotional. And then there are those important choices that take us deeper inwards — like entertaining a job offer or stepping away from a loved one or responding to a flirtation that questions our commitment to our partners. Where do those come from? How does our body participate in choice making? How can we tune in and take guidance from our inner compass — our intuition? How can we build confidence in making decisions?

If you’re curious and want to find out, join me tonight at 8 pm for my weekly, 30-minute, Mindfulness Meditation Monday session. bit.ly/mmmwithroma

Together we will explore choices and other life-affecting questions in both perspective and in practice!

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Clip 2 from my Q&A on Mindful Parenting .

@Drmonica asks: What are the five tools in my book, The “Perfect” Parent?

These communication and mindful parenting tools help in :

◾ Planting self-confidence in parenting,
◾ Growing trust with our children,
◾ connections
◾ Deepening mutual understanding and
◾ Reaping the fruits of our life-long efforts

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Clip 1 from my Q&A on Mindful Parenting ...

@drmonica asks: What was the inspiration behind my award winning book, The “Perfect” Parent?

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#parentingtips #mindful #toolsofgrowth #romakhetarpal #mindfulliving

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It’s Mindfulness Meditation Monday! Today’s discussion will be on finding the balance between work and family life. This has been every parent’s challenge during this pandemic. Let’s explore how mindfulness can support this balance.

It’s 30 minutes and it’s free! Register here ow.ly/zl6W50F4enO

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Tools of Growth is in Stevenson Ranch, California.

SUNDAY FUNDAY!! Join in the fun and the learning with the brilliant @drmonicapharmd and I! We will be talking about the pressure to be perfect in #singleparenting. We promise you’ll walk away with practical tools to support you in being a mindful and connected parent — sans pressure — while building a rock-solid relationship with your children through the challenges of life and this pandemic!

[ Tools from my award winning book, The “Perfect” Parent ]

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“We get so caught up in the branches of our identities that we forget that we are the whole tree and not just the many branches of it. We forget our center, our core, our wholeness. ”

This recent Mindfulness Meditation Monday honoring Mother’s Day was on identities — particularly those attached to motherhood. Sharing a personal example of a time with my now son-in-law, Sameer, where his love and respect challenged me to “feel” the essence of what lies under a label or identity was a huge growth lesson on oneness, mindfulness and consciousness for me.

Through this link bit.ly/TOG-mmm, you can access the full discussion on mindfulness and the practice of meditation that followed.

To learn more from real life examples and keep growing mindfully, please join our community every Monday at 8pm PST. It’s 30 min and it’s FREE. bit.ly/mmmwithroma

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Mindfulness Meditation Monday. I invite you to join me for my weekly drop-in where, this week, we will honor ourselves, the mothers in our lives and the parts of ourselves that we are constantly mothering.

Please feel free to bring your children, mothers or others!

REGISTER HERE: bit.ly/mmmwithroma

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Mindfulness Meditation Monday. I invite you to join me for my weekly drop-in where, this week, we will honor ourselves, the mothers in our lives and the parts of ourselves that we are constantly mothering.

Please feel free to bring your children, mothers or others!

Registration here: ow.ly/wxzJ50EHROx

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HAPPY MOTHERS DAY! Yes, thanks to motherhood, we excavate and extract our best; we are constantly in touch with our best, highest selves. If we're lucky we get to honor this identity of Motherhood for a lifetime.

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Dealing with the Feeling helps us manage our inner communication landscape by bringing it back into balance. This simple practice assists us in accessing our innate intelligence, empowering us and leading us to resolve any issue we might face. It also helps us build good, effective communication skills with our children.

~The Perfect Parent pg.42

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2 months ago ·

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A clip from our last week’s Mindfulness Meditation Monday - On Forest Meditation. An open-eyed meditation so we can tune into the voice and wisdom of our own souls as we walk through a forest, exploring and observing the outside while noting its effects on the inside, in our body and mind.

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Our kids will remember the quality time we spent with them more than the hours we spent rushing them from place to place. If we are constantly on the go, we’ll have less energy and patience in dealing with them. This means we will have less presence of mind to help them manage their emotions when they’re up against a challenge, let alone manage our own.

~ The Perfect Parent, pg 30

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2 months ago ·

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Deep in the forest I stroll to hear the wisdom of my own soul,” says Angie Weiland-Crosby, author, artist, and nature lover. In this week’s Mindfulness Meditation Monday, I invite you to join me in an open-eyed meditation so we can tune into the voice and wisdom of our own souls as we walk through a forest, exploring and observing the outside while noting its effects on the inside, in our body and mind. This is a wonderful mindfulness practice to lean into as we navigate our day-to-day life—a practice that can cultivate equanimity, discernment, and joy. Getting familiar with these frequencies in our body helps us return to them when we traverse the unknown and unexpected daily challenges.

READ THE FULL BLOG HERE: toolsofgrowth.com/blog/on-forest-meditation or LINK IN BIO.

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On Forest Meditation | Tools of Growth

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On a recent trip to Big Sur, we got to explore the forest. Its majesty and vastness reminded me very much of life itself—mystic, ever-evolving, and colorful. At times on my long morning walks, I could hear myself breathing, and I could feel my feet gently treading the uneven landscape. This remind...

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Mindfulness Meditation Monday: On Silence and Space.

"Being silent or quiet is a waste of time!" AND "I feel like I got nothing done today!" are common self-deprecating statements that stem from the seed of the most common underlying human condition: I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH. The busier we are, the happier we are with ourselves.

So I can convince you otherwise -- in perspective and practice -- let me first answer these questions: What does silence offer us? How is it helpful and useful? How can the frequency of silence and space enhance parenting, relationships and productivity? What does the energy of space and being silent do for ALL of life - including nature?

I'm not answering these questions here of course! For this, I invite you to join me tonight from 8-8:30pm PST for my weekly MMM session -- where we learn about Mindfulness, practice a little meditation and start the week with a focused intention.
It's SHORT, FUN and FREE.

Join here: bit.ly/mmmwithroma

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Now that mindfulness is getting a lot of attention, I get asked these questions all the time:

“What does it take to be a Mindful Parent when the whole household is in my face all the time”

“How can I live a Mindful Life?”

“Can I train myself to be mindful in everything I do?”

“Do humans have the capacity to master mindfulness?”

“Mindfulness is great conceptually. What do I do when I have steam coming out of my ears when I’m angry with my partner or my kids?”

You see, most have us have the good intention to live a mindful life but more than half the time it doesn’t show up in our behavior. We don’t know what to do in the moment. Would you believe me if I told you there is ONE answer to all of the questions above? By this ONE thing, you’ll be well on your way to actually living a MINDFUL LIFE! Once you have it down, you can share the love with your children, family, friends and community.

No, I’m not giving it up that easy 🙂 I invite you to join me LIVE for Mindfulness Meditation Monday from 8-8:30pm PST. It’s 30 minutes and it’s FREE. ow.ly/8UQe50Elsvs

All meditations can be accessed here for FREE: ow.ly/HjNj50Elsvr

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Sometime in early 2017, I was in a hair salon with my daughter, Nitasha, and her hairdresser asked my opinion on a challenge she was facing. As we got deeper into a conversation about “the right thing to do”, K turns to Nitasha and says, “Oh my! Your Mom is soooo woke!”. Having never heard that word before, it took me a minute to connect the dots:

Woke à Sleep à Awake! Ah! I got it! She meant awakened or conscious or aware or mindful.

In this age where wisdom teachings are everywhere, this word has found its way mainstream and is even trending. In the mindfulness context, being woke simply means paying attention to the present moment with openness, curiosity and a willingness to be with what is. It means to be attentive and aware of whatever has caught your attention. Being “woke” to anything is a practice! It requires us to build a specific skill that finesses our ability to choose to …

- respond instead of react
- to be calm instead of chaotic
- be peaceful instead of anxious

If being woke is calling at you, you access this session for FREE here: bit.ly/TOG-mmm

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A "SOULMATE" is someone who helps us grow; someone who we share our soul-journey with. Yes, our true lifetime (if we're lucky) soulmates are our kids.

Leave a 💙 or a thought -- if you agree or have another point of view.

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.