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Another great highlight on Christine Carter's new book "The New Adolescence: Raising Happy and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety and Distraction." It is available for purchase now! Go grab your copy for a great toolbox of tips on raising resilient teenagers. ... See MoreSee Less

A must-read for parenting Gen Z, and tuning out the noise

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Berkeley sociologist shares parenting tips on navigating an entirely new adolescence

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How do you respond to your and your child's strong emotions? In her award winning book, "The 'Perfect' Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids," Roma Khetarpal talks about Dealing With the Feeling for acknowledging and validating your emotions in order to fully understand and communicate what you are feeling. ... See MoreSee Less

Part 2: Emotional Intelligence- HOW Parents Should Boost Their Implementation of This Important Tool | Tools of Growth

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Welcome back! Last week, we established WHY it is important for parents to take the lead with modeling and teaching their children’s Emotional Intelligence (EI) skills. So let’s jump right in and learn how. To begin with, I’d like to give credit where it is deserved. The tool that I’m about ...

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This one's for teachers! What do we do as educators when we have no choice but to abide to the state and federal assessments our students are set up to take? EdSurge offers giving them a breather by practicing a multitude of affirmations and activities to keep them confident and motivated. ... See MoreSee Less

Test Anxiety Is Crippling Students. Giving Them a Breather Can Help. - EdSurge News

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It’s 9:30 in the morning when Anton enters my classroom, an hour after the morning bell signals that breakfast is over and the school day is beginning. ...

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Our children's curiosity often leads us down roads unknown. Do you let them explore those unknowns through their imagination? Allowing them the opportunity to step-outside the box and explore possibilities is great in developing critical thinkers. Roma Khetarpal ... See MoreSee Less

Cookie-Cutter vs. Out-of-the-Box... What Kind of Children Do You Want to Raise? | Tools of Growth

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“What kind of kids do we want to raise?” Of course, we all want kids who are happy, think positive, and do good! That’s why it’s our Tools of Growth tagline. Furthermore, we want our children to be successful, resilient, confident, and courageous, as well as kind and forgiving. I believe all...

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Do you make sure to designate some "Special Time" between your children and yourselves? Sometimes a child's behavior is signaling that they would like more one-on-one time with their parents. How would you approach Special Time? A Fine Parent ... See MoreSee Less

How to Strengthen Your Parent-Child Bond with Special Time - A Fine Parent

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Special time creates a strong parent-child bond which is necessary for optimal development and is the most powerful tool for influencing a child's behavior.

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Wondering whether a bout of character should be rewarded or reprimanded? Roma Khetarpal says it all depends on communication and in this specific case, perhaps also a transformation of sorts. ... See MoreSee Less

Ground this child or buy her ice-cream? | Tools of Growth

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Last week, a friend sent me a link to a Twitter post by a father and author from the UK by the name of Mason Cross. In his post, he shared his 11-year- old daughter’s handwritten student feedback. This is what it said. His post got a cumulative 164,786 retweets, and 532,526 likes on social m...

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The Transform Challenging Behavior Online Conference is coming back yet again! If you're interested in joining together on an online platform to discuss and hear about various trauma-informed practices to support children who exhibit challenging behavior.
TCBOC is a free-to-attend 7-day online conference featuring conversations with a plethora of speakers who are passionate in this field.
It will be taking place May 6 - 12, 2020 this year, so mark your calendars!
Registration is not open yet but you can join the waitlist for 2020 and get the 2019 resource guide for free! www.challengingbehaviorconference.com/
Below you can watch a video on last year's conference to get more information on what you can expect. ... See MoreSee Less

Welcome to the 2nd Annual Transform Challenging Behavior Online Conference

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Welcome to the 2nd annual Transform Challenging Behavior Online Conference. April 3 - 9, 2019 - enroll now at challengingbehaviorconference.com How does it w...

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Thank you so much for your review of #ThePerfectParent! It means so much to be part of a community that can share their experiences and struggles while learning to overcome and work with them.

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"One of my FAV parenting books!
Now that I have an almost 5 year old, I was getting into power struggles and arguments almost on a weekly basis. This book gave me the guidance and tools to speak more respectfully, openly and mindfully with my kids especially in tough moments. Roma has a very streamlined and organized method of achieving greater connection with your kids and I deeply love her honest stories about her struggles and lessons from her father, husband and her son. This book has honestly, wisdom and humor. The perfect combination when you are reading a parenting book on something that can bring up feelings of fear." - Tejal V. Patel ... See MoreSee Less

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Sometimes we forget that as our little ones are growing we have to change the way we parent them. The three changes highlighted by The Greater Good Science Center are a perfect start to understanding why this is the case and how these changes will help your child grow as well! ... See MoreSee Less

Three Ways to Change Your Parenting in the Teenage Years

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Young children and teenagers have very different needs.

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Wondering what could possibly be the meaning behind your child's different behaviors at school and at home. Child Mind Institute offers some ideas. ... See MoreSee Less

Why Are Kids Different at Home and at School

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It’s not unusual for kids to behave differently in different settings. Some kids are on their best behavior in school, only to act out at home. Others stress out in the classroom. Advice from the Child Mind Institute about why some kids act out in different settings, and how parents and teachers c...

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"Demystifying Puberty and 'Decoding Boys'" - Atomic Moms makes it a little bit easier to talk about the hard topics. From understanding what's really happening during puberty to teaching our growing ones how to take care of their bodies both emotionally and physically, this is one podcast you don't want to miss! ... See MoreSee Less

Demystifying Puberty and "Decoding Boys" | Cara Natterson, M.D., best-selling author

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Feb 12, 2020 - #246 • Pediatrician and best-selling author of the American Girl series juggernaut The Care and Keeping of You, Dr. Cara Natterson joins us on Atomic Moms to demystify puberty and talk about her new book for parents Decoding Boys: The Subtle Art of Raising Sons. In this honest ...

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How do you prepare your children to face rejection or failure? Leaving them to work with their mistakes is so hard for us as parents, but Next Step with Kalpana sets up important tips to help our children see it as a process. ... See MoreSee Less

Preparing Our Children to Face Rejection, or Failure

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How we can help prepare our children to face rejection, or failure.

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Are you finding it hard to balance parenting with working life? Whether it's finding a balance in assigning tasks to each parent, navigating the world of business as a parent, or discussing the changing family landscape, Jeanne-Marie - Voila Montessori has the perfect podcast for you. ... See MoreSee Less

EP 26: Supporting working parents. With Sarah K. Peck

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The past few days have been BEAUTIFUL! Make sure you take some time to enjoy the outdoors today, whether it be a "Take 5" moment or a simple breathing exercise taken outdoors.
On another note, what are your thoughts on letting your kids make mistakes or experience failure? ... See MoreSee Less

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Do you often have trouble tapping into the story time mood with your child? Try these tips in creating a better imaginative environment for your child. EduMaxi Ltd ... See MoreSee Less

How do you make story time fun for children? | EduMaxi

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By Dr Jeremy Koay Stories, either written or spoken, are part of our everyday experience. You have read or heard stories that make you laugh, that awaken your

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If getting your child to eat healthier is a struggle, A Fine Parent has some great ideas to help set them on the right path! ... See MoreSee Less

How to Encourage Kids to Have Healthy Eating Habits - A Fine Parent

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Healthy eating habits for kids start with the parent. Encourage a healthy and happy lifestyle for the whole family by following these tips and suggestions.

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Have you checked this week's Sunday Mindful Parenting Perspective? We're still so full of love from Friday's Valentine's Day, and no you don't need chocolates or flowers to express this sort of feeling. Our words and attitudes are enough. Roma Khetarpal reminds us that Parenting is... expressing our love to our children like it’s Valentine’s Day every day ... See MoreSee Less

Parenting is... expressing our love to our children like it's Valentine’s Day every day | Tools of Growth

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Parenting is... expressing our love to our children like it’s Valentine’s Day every day Think about it: There are some socially conditioned habits that we all adopt and spend millions of dollars on globally. Yes, I’m referring to Valentine’s Day. Over the last 10 years, as my kids went to co...

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Want the high school girl in your life to have the opportunity to learn vital leadership skills? The 2020 Miss CEO Summer Leadership Academy is the perfect place for her to learn networking skills and build lasting professional relationships. This year it will be taking place at Stanford University. The deadline to apply is March 1st. Apply now, as spaces are limited! Miss CEO ... See MoreSee Less

Summer Leadership Academy — MISS CEO

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What's the secret sauce to keeping together that bond of trust between you and your offspring, even when secrets start to stand on the border of morals you taught them to treasure? Roma Khetarpal has a recipe for you! ... See MoreSee Less

The Secret Sauce: Keeping Our Children's Confidences | Tools of Growth

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My daughter was eight years old when “secrets” became a thing in our family. Nitasha would tell her dad a secret and ask him not to tell me and vice versa. We were all caught up in this—including her grandparents. There was one weekend, though, that one of her secrets had broader implicatio...

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Want to find an easier way to talk to your child about emotions? AhaParenting.com breaks it down in an easy to understand manner. ... See MoreSee Less

Easy ways to teach kids about emotions in daily life

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.