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“Kudos to you and your team for all the compassion, dedication, and passion in making our children’s world a better place one insight at a time.”Sharmila Daryanani McGowen, LMFT

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How was bedtime tonight? Did you and your toddler or child struggle or was it peaceful and easy?

What happens when a child wants independence to make their own decisions?

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How to Overcome Struggles for Independence | Tools of Growth

This post was first published on Masalamommas.com. “I eat,” insists the toddler as her mother feeds her morning cereal. “I don’t want to wear this,” says the preschooler as his dad struggles to dress him for school. “Why do I have to go to bed at eight?” asks the tween. “How come you...

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People who are in the thick of parenting chaos often ask me how they can become more #mindful parents. How can they enjoy the journey more? How can they connect with that child that seems so defiant?

My first answer is always to ‘be present’. Be there. Listen. Hear. Put them first. Put down the phone. Look them in the eyes.

It will help...

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'I do so much for you, but you are so ungrateful.

I sacrificed my own desires for you.

I spent my whole life on your well-being.

If it weren’t for me, you wouldn’t even be born.

I put food on the table and a roof over your head.

I call the shots while you’re in my house.'

Let's talk about our #TOGTuesdayBlogPost! Are you parenting on a pedestal?

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Meeting the amazing people that make my Alma Mater shine is amazing!

We should all take time to go back. It can help us really appreciate where we are!

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We Thank You, Veterans, for your service.

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More fun images from my trip home!

The Principal of my Alma Mater, Dr. Binumon, me and, from the Board of directors, Mr. Mohammed on the right!

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Our job is encourage them to look as long as possible....

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I wanted to re-share my speaking at my Alma Mater! If you have seen the beginning forward to the last 2 minutes! 🙂 ... See MoreSee Less

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I was so honored to meet - and to share cake cutting duties - with H. E Louis Pierre Emon, the #Canadian ambassador to Kuwait!

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As I travel back home I have had some amazing opportunities and honors. Like being able to speak at my Alma Mater!!

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I am recharging this week and am reminded of how important taking time off is! Especially with family!

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Family Vacations Can Leave A Long-Lasting Impact On A Kid's Happiness

A new study came out to reveal that family vacations can actually leave a long-lasting impact on a child's happiness.

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I do it too - even though my kids are grown. I want to help them and fix problems and make it all better.

But when we do that, we limit their growth and ability to manage issues on their own.

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'I’m teary eyed when I think of the importance of such training. If we, as adults taking care of children—parents, teachers, recess staff, or whoever—take responsibility for being mindful, emotionally intelligent, conscious, and aware of how we show up, we perform the greatest service to those children. Author (and presidential candidate) Marianne Williamson says, “There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children.”'

My #TOGTuesdayBlogPost last week is all about how YOU can get my Mindful Teacher Training Course too!

Read more: toolsofgrowth.com/blog/mindful-teacher-training-now-online/

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I love love love this! Changing your words can change everything about your relationship with your child!

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Hi everyone! Be sure to watch my Facebook story!! I am visiting home for the first time in 30 years and am sharing details! #goingbackhome #33yearsLater #romainkuwait2019 ... See MoreSee Less

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My family is my everything!

As much as I wanted to spend every moment with them, I also struggled with the life/ work balance raising my kids. It seemed as if I was always in a competition no matter what I did... stay at home mom or as a working mom.

How do you acheive balance?

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I would be willing to go out on a limb and say that raising a teenager is probably the most trying time in a #parents life.

Hormone changes, fights for Independence and more make for a changing child that we may not recognize as our little baby anymore.

But, are they ready for adulthood just because they think they are? Let's talk: toolsofgrowth.com/blog/pg-13-ready-or-not/

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Happy Sunday!!

I hope you are relaxing with those you love and having an amazing #pajamasunday!!

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Celebrate "Mindful" Pajamas-at-Home Day | Tools of Growth

On Sunday I actually hung around the house in pajamas until 4 p.m., and I must admit it was exactly the prescription I needed to recover from two busy work weeks. Here are the highlights of my experience: My Sunday morning treat—masala-chai and half a sourdough toast with butter—never tasted bet...

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What is Tools of Growth?

Tools of Growth is the brainchild of author and parentologist Roma Khetarpal and research psychologist Dr. Julie Watson. It was created to help parents simply and effectively turn day-to-day family challenges into opportunities to strengthen communication. With tips for cooling down those “hot” moments, as well as tools for completely changing how we communicate with our kids—and how they communicate with us—Tools of Growth helps parents reconnect with themselves so they can truly connect with their kids. TOG helps you find the calm, happy, and relaxed parent within you.