Your Kids: Are They Ordinary or Extraordinary?

Posted on September 17, 2019

When we are away from our kids, we only talk about them: the funny things they say and do, the bratty quick responses they give, the challenges that we face with them, the dilemmas of small happenings at school, and so on. You know, the ordinary day-to-day stuff. You do it, I still do it (and my “kids” are adults), everyone does it! We find ourselves saying, “Can’t wait to get away for a few days” or “So ready for a break!” and even “So looking forward to some ME time” and, if we’re lucky, “Yeah! Viva Las Vegas! Woohoo!” You know what I mean. You’ve said it, I’ve said it, we’ve all said it. And then, magically, before we even realize it, their magnetic powers start to make their way into our “get away” moments and lo and behold, we are talking about them, the very things we were relieved to detach from for a temporary amount of time.

I remember our very first “alone time” trip (It was Jamaica! Amazing!). We were so exhausted with the all the pre-planning of our trip and had just gotten on the 4:00 a.m. shuttle when I said, “I love my kids but I really needed this.” My wonderful husband put his arm around my shoulders and gave me a little squeeze. The not-more-than-a-decade older couple sitting on the other side of the aisle, at an arm-length distance, overheard us, smiled and said, “Awww! We remember those days!” And then followed the trigger questions: “How old are they? Girls or boys?” Before you know it, it was, “Who’s older? Who’s watching them?” That’s pretty much all we needed. We did a great job with talking about kids, theirs, and ours for the rest of the three-hour shuttle ride!! Sound familiar?

My kids aren’t and weren’t Olympiads or academically off the charts or anything out of the ORDINARY. They were your regular funny, loving, exuberant, full-of-life, ordinary children. Few of us have children with beyond ordinary abilities and yet there’s nothing ordinary about them! My kids play an extraordinary role in my life. They bring the EXTRAORDINARY to me, to my home, to my ordinary moments. And every single time, they do it effortlessly, naturally, and smoothly! Why else would I (we) be sooooo happy to talk about them almost as soon as we get away from them?

Moreover, they don’t just bring the EXTRAORDINARY TO me, they also bring the EXTRAORDINARY out IN me. How else could I have the superhuman capacity to adore them on two hours of sleep? How else could I involve my whole being and 40 hours of research on the right school for them? How else could their one little hug relieve the exhaustion of a 120-hour work week?

Can ordinary kids possess such extraordinary talents? Yup, they are EXTRA-ordinary because they possess all the, well, extras to enhance the ordinary! Only extra-ordinary kids can super-size our ordinary human capacities to love unconditionally, be patient, be kind, and be empathetic. Only extra-ordinary kids can shrink feelings of sadness, loneliness, and illness with their natural magnifying powers of compassion, humor, and wit. There’s nothing ordinary about that! Each one of them is beyond-ordinary. Each one is EXTRAORDINARY.

Don’t you think?