Parenting is… a reflection of our wholeness or hollowness.

Posted on December 15, 2019

When we are whole within, we understand and respect our own existence as separate from our children’s. When we are whole ourselves, we do not project on our kids—or anyone else in our relationship—any exertion of authority, any loss of power, or any doubt or shame.

When we accept and respect ourselves, we have clarity about life and our role as a parent. We can live out our parenting intention of unconditionally supporting and raising our kids. We can set and follow personal boundaries so we don’t get in the way of our children’s learning lessons and growth. We can lead and inspire while honoring and respecting our children’s voice, essence, and existence. This is the only way to create space in our hearts and homes for our children to thrive.

Basketball Hall of Famer Dwayne Wade has made it clear over and over again that this is exactly the way he chooses to show up as a parent. Over Thanksgiving break, after a barrage of comments on his wife’s Instagram about their son’s crop shirt and white nails, he rolled up his sleeves, not to fight but to stand behind his family.

Here are a few of his recent and past praiseworthy comments that we can reflect upon, learn, and apply.

“Stupidity is a part of this world we live in—so I get it. But here’s the thing—I’ve been chosen to lead my family, not y’all. So we will continue to be us and support each other with pride, love, and a smile!

“As a parent, my only goal is that my kids feel that I see them, love them, and support them.

“I don’t really talk about it much, because it’s Zion’s story to tell. I think as a family, we should support each other. That’s our job. And my job as a father is to facilitate their lives and to support them and be behind them in whatever they want to do.

“I’m doing what every parent has to do. Once you bring kids into this world, you become unselfish. It’s my job to be their role model, to be their voice in my kids’ lives, to let them know you can conquer the world. So, go and be your amazing self, and we’re going to sit back and just love you.”

Hats off to you, Dwayne Wade. I salute you.