Posted on December 15, 2014
In the cultural urgency of keeping our kids busy and thereby enrolling them in every ‘in’ activity and sport, how many of us parents actually stop to observe what our kids are really good at? How can we uncover our children’s passions? Believe it or not, the three questions I asked myself when choosing activities for my kids were: 1. What’s healthy for them? 2. What will be the most fun? 3. How much will it cost? All three are…
Posted on November 24, 2014
Some thoughts this Thanksgiving. It is more common for us to give thanks from our hearts for our gifts of life than actually giving thanks out loud. Think about it: we associate gratitude with a feeling that is felt instead of one that is expressed. Most often, we thank out loud (or in writing) when we receive a gift or an act of kindness. Here’s another example. We are grateful (in our hearts) for our kids, but are we grateful…
Posted on November 17, 2014
One of the most unique gifts of parenting is our ability to understand our children like no one else can. Why is it, then, that kids so often say, “You just don’t understand!” to their parents? How did we go from understanding them completely in their younger years — their expressions, their sounds, their body language, their mumbled-jumbled first words — to them saying, “You just don’t understand?” Did we really stop understanding them at some point or do they…
Posted on November 3, 2014
THE ISSUE A father discovered that his 10-year-old daughter, who was 5 feet, 9 inches tall, had secret accounts on social media and had been dating behind his back, all against his rules. His response was to put her in a pink T-shirt that stated her age and grade in school, plus hair curlers and a backpack, and post several pictures of her on Facebook. https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/dad-gives-10-year-old-daughter-a-very-public-lesson-in-101261723257.html ROMA’S TAKE Clearly, this ten-year-old child has self-esteem issues about her height and appearance,…
Posted on October 31, 2014
Parenting doesn’t come with a manual! That’s true, but then understanding yourself does not come with a manual either. Parenting is a new role that we take on, and just like anything new to be learned, it is a work in progress. Like playing basketball or the piano, the more you practice, the better you get at it. And the longer you practice, the more comfortable you feel. If you are following this blog, then it’s safe to assume…