Teenagers: When to Push, When to Let Go

Posted on October 9, 2017

Guest post by Tools of Growth follower, Carolyn West. My daughter is a high school senior, and I flip flop daily from being excited for her and all that lies ahead, and nervous because she’ll be leaving home soon. It’s been said that the most important time to be a stay-at-home-parent is during the teen years. I absolutely believe this is true.—not because I need to pack her lunch and lay out her clothes, but because there is so much…

Talking to Kids About the Las Vegas Shooting

Posted on October 5, 2017

With so much pain from the Las Vegas shooting this week, we are all trying to cope with what happened and our immense grief and fear. Roma sat down with Alex Urbina and Kyle Jellings on KHTS AM-1220 Radio in Santa Clarita to give us some tips to help us discuss this tragedy with our kids, and how to handle it ourselves as well.   Some of the key takeaways from the discussion: Be honest: Face this with acceptance. Let…

Are we teaching our kids how to use our most important gifts as humans?

Posted on December 7, 2017

We are definitely different than species of plants and animals. We are the human species – endowed with traits and characteristics that are unique to us and that can help us not just survive but also thrive. As we parent our children in a constant time crunch, we get caught up with teaching our kids skills to “succeed” in the world that they live in. Academics, extracurricular activities, and social agendas take precedence in our day-to-day routines. We want to…

College Bound? A Parent’s Growing Pains

Posted on September 21, 2017

“I see my daughter packing to leave next week. She’ll be leaving home for the first time, and my stomach is churning.” “I’m a little nervous for Oliver. He’s off to college, and he still looks like he’s 15. I hope he doesn’t get bullied. How will he handle living on his own?” “Anila is going to college. Oh, my God. I’m totally stressed out. She’s always attracted to the wrong crowd, and now I’ll have no control over that.”…

Parenting Tips That Show You How You Can Be The “Perfect” Parent

Posted on September 6, 2017

Last week, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Josh Ochs from SmartSocial.com to discuss my award-winning book, The “Perfect” Parent. The discussion centered on the tools that can make us all better parents, especially in the digital age we are living in. Approachable parenting builds trust. Sensible parenting builds connection. Reasonable and responsible parenting builds understanding. When you are right, practice being kind first. Align your intentions with your goal. If you haven’t picked up the book yet, this…