2018 Parenting Audit – Part 1

Posted on January 5, 2018

It’s been a few days since we turned the page on a new year, and it’s been fabulous seeing everyone setting goals and taking action. This is a great time to think about your work or business and how you can carve out more time for yourself. While “A new year, a new you” is a popular theme for “resolutions” at this time of the year, what is clearly lacking in many of those resolutions are any type of parenting goals.

While setting goals for health, financial abundance, and personal growth (yes, those are the top three) is a great way to work on our happiness and success, what truly influences our happiness index is the connection and relationship we have with our kids.

And although we are the “perfect” parents for our kids, we all have moments when we get stressed out and don’t exactly behave the way we would like around our children. We tell ourselves we can (and will) do better. And for a while, we keep that up. But how can we actually set parenting goals that help us ensure success? How can we match our intention of connection and relationship with our kids with our behavior?

One way to do that is to start the new year with a parenting audit of ourselves and our family. Begin by spending some time thinking about each of the below questions. You can write your answers on a separate sheet of paper, or print out this blog and write them in the empty space after each question.

  1. What is the speed of life in your household?

–   Slow and calm?

–   Relaxed or rushed?

–   Always busy and overscheduled?

  1. What do you think about your kids? Of course, you love them, but do you…

–  Accept them in your heart as they are?

–  Constantly want them to improve?

–  Compare them to other kids?

  1. How do you generally speak to your kids?

–  Are your words respectful or demanding?

–  Is your tone of voice kind or unkind?

  1. How do you speak to your kids when they make mistakes?

–   Are you bossy or understanding?

–   Are you able to have discussions or talks, or do you argue a lot?

  1. How do you speak about your kids to others and refer to them on social media?

–   Are you empathetic or do you complain about them?

–   Are you sarcastic and condescending?

–   Do you shame them?

  1. How do your kids respond to you?

– Are they respectful or rude?

– Do they listen to what you’re saying or roll their eyes?

– Do they follow directions or just ignore you?

Consider your answers after you’ve written them down. And be sure to come back next week when we examine the range of answers and reveal some tips and tools for doing better.