Positive Attitude: Monkey See, Monkey Do

Posted on April 16, 2019

I’m so excited to share with you a post by renowned Licensed Educational Psychologist and longtime friend, Laurie Adachi, LEP. She has been instrumental in guiding and offering support to both my children through their academic challenges – so much so that my children would reach out to her independently for direction even when they were in college! I highly respect her work and have referred many of the families that I work with over to her. Laurie truly offers supportive…

PG-13: Ready or Not?

Posted on April 11, 2019

The terrible twos, the preschool separation blues, the elementary school adjustments, and the middle school social challenges are all in preparation for high school’s peer pressure, academic expectations from parents and teachers, “independence” declaration, and communication breakdowns!!! Who could ever be ready for all of this? Surely not a 13 or 14-year-old, new-to-teenage-years child! Then pour some physiological changes, hormone spikes, and unwanted hair growth to the mix and just observe. Obviously, these are not soluble ingredients. Each one is…

What do you and your kids value most?

Posted on March 28, 2019

Having spent the last 30 years of life in parenting—including 20 years in helping family and friends with parenting advice, 10 years in teaching parenting classes, and 5 years in parent counseling and education—I will tell you that all disconnects between parents and other adults caring for children come from some form of violation of one’s freedom! Think about what kids say during arguments from the earliest ages on… “You are not the boss of me!” “Why do I have…

Laughter – Take a Cue From Your Kids

Posted on March 11, 2019

Needless to say, we all learn from our kids almost as much (if not more!) as we teach them — which is why Learning is the primary pillar of our TOG Philosophy! One of the most important things that we can learn from our kids is the frequency of laughter. Did you know that: – Kids laugh approximately 300 times per day! – The average 40-year-old adult laughs only about 3-4 times per day! Think about it—kids learn to laugh much before they learn…

Be a Rule Model AND a Role Model

Posted on February 19, 2019

My well behaved niece Vaani, 7 years old at the time, had come to spend a couple of days with us during her summer break last year. I decided to go over some basic rules with her like picking up her plate after a meal, keeping shoes off the couch and furniture, etc…you know, the usual list of rules that us parents like to impose on our kids. She carefully listened at first. When I was done, she asked, ”…