Peer Pressure or Peer Influence?

Posted on May 16, 2018

“Mama, Jackie, Saira, Carina, and I have decided that we will all be Belle for Halloween this year! I’m so excited. Can you order my outfit now?” asked 8-year-old Jasmine on Mother’s Day. “Everybody wants to be Belle, sweetheart. Why do you want to do what everybody else is doing? You should be different and pick something unique,” answered her mom. “Dad, I’m going out of state for college,” declared John at the end of his junior year. “I’ve changed…

How Have You Grown Since Your First Mother’s Day?

Posted on May 11, 2018

  “I can’t believe how big my kids are all of a sudden.” “I’m sad they’re not babies anymore.” “My son’s first word was spoken on Mother’s Day—and it was “papa.” I’ll never let him live that down!” “I remember the day that I became a mother like yesterday. My son was the sweetest gift I ever received.” “This is my 14th Mother’s Day! Yikes, my kids are growing up way too fast.” “By next Mother’s Day, my daughter will…

The Secret Sauce: Keeping Our Children’s Confidences

Posted on May 3, 2018

  My daughter was eight years old when “secrets” became a thing in our family. Nitasha would tell her dad a secret and ask him not to tell me and vice versa. We were all caught up in this—including her grandparents. There was one weekend, though, that one of her secrets had broader implications. When I picked Nitasha up from school on a Friday afternoon, she whispered, “Mom, I want to tell you a secret! But you have to promise…

Our Newest TOG Workshop: Mindfulness Training for Bus Drivers

Posted on April 24, 2018

It’s been quite the ride for Tools of Growth since September 14, 2014. Publishing my book, The Perfect Parent was like giving birth to a beautiful first child. As a first-time author, like a first-time parent, I did not know what to anticipate. I had no preconceived notions about what would happen next, and I consciously decided not to read blogs or “what to expect” advice for new authors. I just jumped in with a heart full of passion. As most…

Build and Strengthen Communication With Your Kids

Posted on April 17, 2018

Times have changed. Our children are part of a generation that is being raised on the information superhighway. Through search engines or social media networks, it seems that the answer to their every question is at their fingertips. They know how space shuttles work and why revolutions happen in other countries. Both on the web and in their academic institutions, they are used to absorbing and understanding information through reasoning. That’s really how they learn best. In fact, reasoning is…