Are You Dealing with the Feelings?!

Posted on May 25, 2017

  (An excerpt from The Perfect Parent…) When my son was in the fourth grade, a friend shared some horror stories about her child’s experience with a certain fifth-grade teacher. Naturally, this created an impression in my mind, and alarm bells rang when I found out the following year that my son would be in this teacher’s class. Suddenly I was besieged by negative emotions and fears. But there was no other option, because there was no other class available….

A Mother’s Day Gift For Your Kids

Posted on May 12, 2017

  As Moms, we all have to constantly be creative with how to address our children’s complaints about why they don’t have certain things others have. In this new-age era of positive psychology, child development experts strongly recommend keeping a “Gratitude Journal” as a great way to remind children to be thankful and to draw their attention to what they DO have. This helps in shifting their focus away from complaining and towards feeling grateful and GOOD about themselves. Well,…

Is There a Roadmap to an Effective Apology?

Posted on May 1, 2017

A few weeks ago, my 26-year-old son (who helps manage our family business, which is about 5 miles from our house) stopped by to grab a quick lunch. Since he does not live at home anymore, I popped into the kitchen from my home office to spend a few treasured minutes with him. We started discussing something, and suddenly the two of us were in a verbal fender-bender, with him holding strongly onto his opinion, and me very sure about…

Overcoming Judgement in South Asian Families

Posted on April 25, 2017

This post was originally published on  I’m not sure if this just a South Asian thing, but it’s definitely worth talking about. I was at an 80th birthday party where three generations were present. At the beginning, I sat down for a while with my mother-in-law and her friends. They happened to be talking about the honoree’s new granddaughter-in-law, Mita. As Mita toasted her grand-mother-in-law, I overheard one of the women at the table say, “Well, this one knows…

How Can We Be Grateful When We Complain So Much?

Posted on April 11, 2017

“I know I have a good husband. He’s a good dad and provider, and my kids are all healthy. Really, I’m grateful for my life, but I can’t help but notice how work always comes first to my husband, next come the kids, and I’m last! He walks in the door, kisses the kids, then walks over to me. If he’s with the kids and the phone rings, he tries not to answer it or walks into another room, but…