A Mother’s Day Gift For Your Kids

Posted on May 12, 2017

 

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As Moms, we all have to constantly be creative with how to address our children’s complaints about why they don’t have certain things others have. In this new-age era of positive psychology, child development experts strongly recommend keeping a “Gratitude Journal” as a great way to remind children to be thankful and to draw their attention to what they DO have. This helps in shifting their focus away from complaining and towards feeling grateful and GOOD about themselves.

Well, here’s another creative TOG that can beautifully draw a child’s attention to feeling good… a WISH JOURNAL… a journal where children (and parents) can write down their wishes, not for themselves but for others. For example, if your child is complaining about not having anyone to play with because his sister has a fever, you can encourage your child to write a wish for his sister in your family wish journal (or you can write it for him if he is too young to write): “I wish my sister feels better soon so we can go outside and play again.”

So this Mother’s Day, why not shake it up. When your kids give you their gift/token of love, how about giving back to your kids the gift of a WISH JOURNAL! It will be your way of thanking them for being in your life while guiding them to wish well for those around them.

Here’s what the contents of a family’s WISH JOURNAL might look like in just a couple of days:

1. Spotting a frowning neighbor, let’s send a good wish their way by writing:

I wish our neighbor starts smiling more.

2. Losing a favorite book:

I wish Sarah finds her favorite Harry Potter book soon.

3. Your niece is waiting to hear back about her college admissions:

I wish my cousin, Jen, gets into her dream school.

You get the picture! The idea is to expand a child’s emotional state from “me” to “we.” Developing this habit will naturally lead children to a place of positive wishing and positive feeling, raising the level of our own serotonin (feel-good hormones).

Interestingly enough, as adults, most of us do this daily anyway, at least in conversation, but we use the word “hope” instead. For example, I hope Sarah finds her book OR I hope Jen gets into UCLA, etc. A WISH JOURNAL just takes it to the next level by putting it down in writing. Here are but a few advantages of cultivating this family communication habit:

1. Encourages children to write their feelings, nurturing Emotional Intelligence.

2. Teaches children to always “wish” the best for everyone as they do for themselves, nurturing empathy.

3. Helps children to think positive about negative feelings or situations, nurturing happiness.

What a great way to celebrate Mother’s Day and Raise Kids to Be happy, Think Positive and Do Good!