Build and Strengthen Communication With Your Kids

Posted on April 17, 2018

Times have changed.

Our children are part of a generation that is being raised on the information superhighway. Through search engines or social media networks, it seems that the answer to their every question is at their fingertips. They know how space shuttles work and why revolutions happen in other countries. Both on the web and in their academic institutions, they are used to absorbing and understanding information through reasoning. That’s really how they learn best. In fact, reasoning is how most of us learn best. Now we parents just have to focus on using our children’s already refined reasoning skills to enhance communication and relationships at home.

Whether you are a parent of a young child or a teenager, being reasonable and response-able will help you build and strengthen communication habits. And if you are pregnant or have an infant, be forward thinking. Start instilling this good communication habit by practicing it with your spouse, family, and friends. It will benefit you in the long run with your children – plus, it will strengthen your communication with your other loved ones, too.

All parents share a common goal of teaching kids to respond to life thoughtfully instead of simply reacting. Well, that training and guidance has to start with the parents. If making these sorts of changes seems hard for you, look at it as a challenge to better your family life and to strengthen your children’s self-confidence. It is a matter of committing to balanced communication – in this case, through reasoning and responding. And when you go off track, breathe deeply, hydrate, cool off, and then take a minute to reflect, redirect, and reconnect. As Peggy O’Mara, former editor and publisher of Mothering magazine, says, “The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” Indeed, our responses and expressions leave lasting impressions on our children. The importance of these impressions cannot and should not be underestimated.

Excerpt from: The Perfect Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids.