On Life and Death – A Conversation with My Kids

Posted on August 10, 2017

This year alone, my young adult children have lost four friends—one to a drug overdose, one to addiction-related suicide, one to cancer, and one to a freak motorcycle accident. Whether death is accidental, unexpected, or intentional, it commonly leaves us with some big and troubling questions: Why did this happen to him/her/their family/me? That question can never be answered clearly, no matter how many layers you peel back as you try to discover what led to the incident. What if…

Mindful

Posted on August 1, 2017

The other day, I heard a parent say, “I can’t do the mindful parenting thing. It’s not my style. I’m not into meditation. It’s too hard for me.” That comment reinforced something I already knew: When it comes to parenting, the word mindful is easily misunderstood. That probably is the fault of us, the parenting “experts.” To begin with, there are a lot of us, and we come from many different fields. Besides licensed MDs, PhDs, and MFTs, you can…

Banning Phone Sales for Preteens… or Not!

Posted on July 26, 2017

I recently came across this segment on CNN, where a Colorado physician and father joined others in circulating a petition to ban cell phone sales to children under 13. I have read enough research and followed enough conversations with experts to know that the issue is truly a concern. Cutting-edge research confirms that the brain during the teen years leans toward more impulsive behavior, attitudes, and mood swings and is more prone to addictions. How then can we put mobile devices…

“Put That Cell Phone Down Now!”

Posted on July 20, 2017

As much as we look forward to breaking the monotony of our daily routine over the summer, a new routine can be extremely challenging for parents. Yes, we get a break from the daily grind and the emotional load of school-year life, but when kids have more free time, we can be overwhelmed and confused with the headache and heartache of their over-use of mobile gadgets and pretty much at a loss at how to deal with it. What’s a…

Taking the Time to Listen with Kids

Posted on July 10, 2017

Julius Cesar said, “Experience is the teacher of all things.” In all my parenting workshops, talks, and consultations, I advocate that parents try the tools that I give them and then “experience” the new experience. The experience will teach you what you need to learn, and you can decide whether or not you want to keep the tool or drop it. It warms my heart when parents commit to this and share what happened when they broke new ground Here’s…