Overcoming Judgement in South Asian Families

Posted on April 25, 2017

This post was originally published on Masalamommas.com.  I’m not sure if this just a South Asian thing, but it’s definitely worth talking about. I was at an 80th birthday party where three generations were present. At the beginning, I sat down for a while with my mother-in-law and her friends. They happened to be talking about the honoree’s new granddaughter-in-law, Mita. As Mita toasted her grand-mother-in-law, I overheard one of the women at the table say, “Well, this one knows…

How Can We Be Grateful When We Complain So Much?

Posted on April 11, 2017

“I know I have a good husband. He’s a good dad and provider, and my kids are all healthy. Really, I’m grateful for my life, but I can’t help but notice how work always comes first to my husband, next come the kids, and I’m last! He walks in the door, kisses the kids, then walks over to me. If he’s with the kids and the phone rings, he tries not to answer it or walks into another room, but…

Are You Being Consistent with Your Kids?

Posted on March 28, 2017

Parents in my Happy, Relaxed Parenting classes frequently express the same lament: Follow-through is one of their biggest challenges, and more often than not, kids pick up on that. My sister, for example, was inconsistent with following through on her decisions and much to her dismay, she knew it. Her work schedule changed so often, it meant that each day was also different for her kids. One morning, as she was driving the kids to school, her personal “pinch point”…

Slime – Do You Know What Your Kids Are Playing With?

Posted on March 15, 2017

Guest post by Carolyn West of This Talk Ain’t Cheap. Last week I wrote a blog post about the concerns I had with kids making slime at home. In case you’re unfamiliar with this “plaything,” it’s a gooey, silky substance that kids like to roll in their hands because it feels good. They just hold it and squish it. But the ingredients they use to make it, and the way they combine different products made me question slime’s safety. My post…

How We Give Up On Our Kids Every Day

Posted on March 6, 2017

We have two close family friends who are traveling a rough road with their young adult children. One family is dealing with alcoholism, the other with drug addiction. As painful as this is for both families, there is an equal amount of resilience and hope. The parents are relentless in their support and refuse to give up on their kids. This week, I saw something similar with my 80-year-old mother-in-law. She stood beside my sister-in-law, who was going through major…